THREAD: Law School Didn’t Teach You This. But It Should Have
The legal profession won't hand you success.
You must build it.
Here’s the truth no one tells you in law school:
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1. Law is a Business of People, Not Just Paper
If you are going to be too available, be very significant.
If you are going to be unavailable, be significant.
Being always available and insignificant is very bad.
But the worst that can happen is to be unavailable and insignificant ~ Victor Chinedu Eric.
But in all: Be significant. The world is in search of significant people.
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Let me start with a truth most people avoid:
You cannot live an exceptional life doing normal things.
Everyone wants rare results.
But lives a common life.
That contradiction is the problem.
You say you want freedom, wealth, impact.
But your actions?
Safe. Predictable. Approved by everyone.
You want to stand out,
but you’re afraid to stand out.
Here’s the rule:
Your life will always match your level of courage.
Not your wishes.
Your actions.
And exceptional actions come at a cost.
Let’s be honest.
They look strange at first:
— Studying when others relax
— Building when others complain
— Taking risks when others play safe
People call it foolish… until it works.
Then they call it “grace.”
If you choose the conventional path, expect conventional results.
No surprises there.
But understand this:
Everything exceptional was once unconventional.
The difference?
Someone had the courage to go first.
You don’t become exceptional by chance.
You become exceptional by choice.
Uncomfortable choices.
Unpopular choices.
Daily choices.
And you can’t live an unconventional life
while seeking approval from conventional people.
Choose one.
Faith matters.
But faith without action is dead.
Average actions build average lives.
Exceptional actions build exceptional lives.
Nobody drifts into greatness.
You decide it. Then you prove it.
You Don’t Lack Money or Connections… You Lack THIS Identity Shift 👇
Success is not something you chase.
It is something you attract by who you become.
Let that sink in.
Because most people are running around chasing money, connections, opportunities… but ignoring the one thing that actually produces all three: their identity.
You say you want to be successful.
Fine.
Then answer this honestly:
Why aren’t you successful yet?
Don’t dodge it.
Most people will say:
“I don’t have enough money.”
Good. Then the real question is:
Why don’t you have money?
You’ll hear things like:
“I haven’t met the right people.” “I don’t have the right network.”
Alright.
Then let’s go one layer deeper:
Why don’t you have the right network?
Because this is where people get uncomfortable.
The truth is simple, but most people don’t like it:
You have not yet become the kind of person that attracts, builds, and sustains those opportunities.
That’s the real issue.
Money is not random.
Networks are not luck.
Opportunities are not magic.
They respond to who you are.
If you lack money, it’s either a skill problem or a value problem.
You haven’t built something people are willing to pay for yet.
If you lack the right network, it’s a positioning and growth problem.
You haven’t become valuable enough, visible enough, or intentional enough for the right people to take you seriously.
If you’re not taking action, then let’s call it what it is:
A discipline problem.
You haven’t yet become a disciplined person.
And until that changes, nothing else will.
Because discipline is not what you do occasionally.
It is who you are.
Look around you.
The people getting results are not special.
They’ve just built the traits you’re still negotiating with:
Consistency.
Skill.
Focus.
Courage.
They show up when they don’t feel like it.
They learn what others avoid.
They take action while others are still “planning.”
So while you’re waiting for the perfect moment, they’re becoming.
And becoming is what attracts everything you’re chasing.
You don’t rise to the level of your desires.
You fall to the level of your identity.
So the real question is not:
“What do I want?”
The real question is:
“Who do I need to become to naturally attract the life I’m asking for?”
Fix that, and everything else starts to align.
Ignore it, and you’ll keep going in circles.
Young people have time but lack wisdom. Old people have wisdom but lack time.
Mentorship fixes this gap and helps young people apply wisdom to their days.
The challenge is this:
“Young people find it difficult to listen to old people; hence, they keep repeating the mistakes of old people.”
Some call this repetition of misfortune and unfortunate predicaments “generational curse.” I call it “generational ignorance.”
The question a reasonable young person will ask is this:
“Are all old people worthy of being given the privilege of a listening ear?”
If you’re an older person viewing this, or a young person with a response you believe is worth sharing, feel free to furnish your answers to the aforementioned question.
The common answer wise people give to this question is usually:
“Only listen to people who have the results you want.”
But I have a rebuttal:
Some people knew the right thing to do but failed to do it, maybe due to laziness or other reasons. Also, some people have come to know the right things to do through the pain of failure and regret. These sets of people may not have the results to show, but they are worth listening to.
So if you only listen to people who have the results you desire, you will miss out on a whole lot of knowledge and wisdom.
For instance, most humans know that you need to take your health seriously.
So, following the logic of the common response, if an overweight, sick man (clearly one who hasn’t taken care of his health), out of pain and regret, advises you to take care of your health, you shouldn’t take him seriously because he doesn’t have the result you desire, namely, a healthy body 🙂
Do you now see the error in that reasoning?
The next logical question is:
“How do you distinguish good advice from bad advice?”
My answer is simple, but hard to implement:
Activity 1: To recognise good advice, you must know yourself and what you want in life (purpose, vision, and goals).
Activity 2: If you have succeeded in Activity 1, then anytime someone advises you, it doesn’t matter who, whether they have the results you seek or not, you ask yourself a simple question:
“If I adopt this advice, will it help me achieve my goals, vision, or purpose?”
With this lens from Activity 2, it becomes easier to distinguish good advice from bad advice, irrespective of who it is coming from.
And this is important, because sometimes even people with results give dumb advice, maybe because they don’t want you to get to where they are.
Hence, you need to be wise.
Thanks for attending my seminar. I know you found it helpful 🥂🤝
When results become the god, ethics become optional.
But every society that abandons process eventually loses results too.
Integrity isn’t weakness. It’s delayed strength.
THREAD: Law School Didn’t Teach You This. But It Should Have
The legal profession won't hand you success.
You must build it.
Here’s the truth no one tells you in law school:
🧵
1. Law is a Business of People, Not Just Paper
I don't understand how men kneel down to propose and then get a NO or a SLAP.
Before then, were you and the lady not already discussing marriage?
Were you not observing her demeanor, in a bid to know if she wants that?
When the relationship got serious, didn't you inform her that you intend to get married to her and things like that.
Aren't you supposed to be transparent with the girl you are talking to?
What exactly brings the surprise and sometimes the rejection, sometimes even slap🤔 (like we have seen in social media lately)
Some of you men need to come plane and tell us what you discuss with these ladies.
Same thing applies for genotype.
What exactly were you discussing with a lady for 6 months and yet don't know her genotype.
Some of you men need exorcism.
Strip away the noise and you’ll see the real divide.
It’s not tribe.
It’s not religion.
It’s not the slogans they feed you during election season.
It’s power and access. The wealthy protect their interests. The poor fight each other over identity.
Look closely.
Pastors and politicians dine together.
Igbo, Hausa, and Yoruba business leaders close deals together.
Christian, Muslim and even Pagan executives share boards and investments.
At the top, cooperation.
At the bottom, division.
You’re being emotionally recruited into battles that don’t benefit you.
Don’t confuse public rhetoric with private alliances.
Follow the incentives. That’s where the truth lives.
You’re not where you want to be because you don’t have the skills to get there yet. But you have all the time in the world to learn them as long as you never give up.
I won't regard myself as a nepo baby, but let me say this: my Dad told me about all he had to sacrifice and abstain from to get to where he is today.
And he also tells me about people he knew back in the day who thought he was being a fool.
Today, the kids of those people tell me, "If not for your father, where would you be?"
Omo, it's not my fault o, blame your Daddy. This is one of the reasons why I go hard on myself. I don't want my kids to be bitter.
You & your friends will come together to plan how to carry OS, other people and their friends are coming together and investing in real estate.
Tomorrow your children will be on social media hating on their children and calling them Nepo Baby.
Life balance. Na you no get sense.
To those who preach cohabiting: would you allow your sister to cohabit with a man just to test 'compatibility'?
What if she ends up cohabiting with 3 or 4 different men in her twenties and they're all deemed 'incompatible'?
Who's going to marry her afterwards (especially if they know she cohabited)?
Some of you are letting selfishness cloud your judgment.