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It’s been said almost nothing of what we worry about happens.
Our brain warning us when there’s no threat is a feature of being human.
We could say:
Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me. Fool me countless times, shame on nobody.
One of the most perplexing things about insomnia for me was how it could go away for weeks, (or even months at a time), only to come back for no apparent reason.
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@JenSeniorNY Hi Jen, hope this tweet finds you well.
Sooo many in our community told me about your Atlantic article on insomnia.
Here’s some thoughts from an alternative view of sleep struggles.
Rooting for you!
https://t.co/PmQIdWscIT
I just hear a fellow sleep coach say “that’s ultimate surrender, it’s what sets us free”, which sounded odd.
Aren’t we going to be captured if we surrender?
But no, because with the inner struggle there is no actual enemy.
Surrender is what sets us free.
@Salimetrics Thank you! And your insight in a way highlights the same point.
When we for example are jet lagged, there’s nothing wrong with our sleep - it just happens in an unaligned way.
Insomnia happens when our brain classifies being awake as a threat.
Sensing a threat, we become more vigilant, more awake, confirming that we indeed are in danger.
Which in reality isn’t the case.
There’s just been a misclassification. Insomnia is a misunderstanding.
If it’s clear to us that what we resist persists (and what we don’t resist doesn’t), then maybe instead of stress management courses and relaxation techniques we ought to develop:
- stress acceptance courses
- anxiety welcoming techniques
Just saying…
With an inner struggle like insomnia, with no actual threat but only a perceived threat (wakefulness) - trying to escape reinforces the idea that we are in danger.
In other words:
Pursuing safety is the greatest risk.
One of many, many paradoxes in our space.
However, this is not how insomnia is generally understood.
Rather insomnia is thought of as a sleep disorder.
Which in reality it isn’t.
There’s nothing wrong with our sleep when we have insomnia, we are simply kept awake as our brain believes we are threatened.
A guest on our YouTube channel, Daniel, sharing how they left insomnia said:
“Fear doesn’t stop death, fear stops life from occurring.”
There’s something very true there isn’t it?
@ndwignall Right! we hear “stop caring what others think”, but we’re a pack animal, it’s hardwired to think about our place in the tribe for survival, that’s normal!
But in 2025 it’s not actually like what they think impacts our survival, we can a bit care less.
Something like that?