Erik Carlberg - Dating Coach for Men

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[Erik Carlberg - Dating Coach for Men @ErikDatingCoach]

We can be tempted to seek explicit confirmation from her that it’s “on”—that things are heating up.

But things need not always be so upfront.

Often, it’s better to be subtle; it’s better to know it’s on, and just focus on the vibe.

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Talking about Mystery from the VH1 show… Remember that one?

Part 4 of 4

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Talking about Mystery from the VH1 show… Remember that one?

Part 3 of 4

#datingcoach #datingcoachformen #interview #mystery #vh1

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Talking about Mystery from the VH1 show… Remember that one?

Part 2 of 4

#datingcoach #datingcoachformen #interview #mystery #vh1

[Erik Carlberg - Dating Coach for Men @ErikDatingCoach]

Talking about Mystery from the VH1 show… Remember that one?

Part 1 of 4

#datingcoach #datingcoachformen #interview #mystery #vh1

[Erik Carlberg - Dating Coach for Men @ErikDatingCoach]

When I discovered the world of dating coaches, pickup artists, seduction gurus, etc., I knew, without a shred of doubt, that I would be a professional coach someday.

I didn’t hope.

I didn’t wonder.

(Full interview on Spotify: Deep Talks With Vrunda)

[Erik Carlberg - Dating Coach for Men @ErikDatingCoach]

The king of mate selection theories is “Ideal Mate Theory” or IMT, for short.

It basically says that everyone has an ideal of what they’re looking for—a picture in their mind of what their ideal partner looks like.

Perhaps it’s more of a feeling they’re seeking.

[Erik Carlberg - Dating Coach for Men @ErikDatingCoach]

Women can be harsh.

But I don’t think that’s the norm.

That’s not been my experience, nor has it been the experience of most of the men I’ve worked with.

After coaching hundreds of men one-on-one—I’m always humbled by how generally kind and patient women are toward men.

[Erik Carlberg - Dating Coach for Men @ErikDatingCoach]

“How much do you work on conversational material with a guy?”

Like many things, it depends.

How many of his personality-conveying stories does he already have on lockdown?

[Erik Carlberg - Dating Coach for Men @ErikDatingCoach]

Those who are not afraid to walk to the beat of their own drum, tend to have more romantic options.

Like it or not, there’s evidence to support that.

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You overcame your approach anxiety and started the conversation.

Things seem to be going well.

And now…

You’re afraid of messing up!

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[Erik Carlberg - Dating Coach for Men @ErikDatingCoach]

I see this all the time on our bootcamps…

Guy starts conversation with girl.

Guy demonstrates some personality.

Guy gets some positive signals from girl.

But…

He stays in friendly-conversation territory.

He’s afraid to show interest beyond friendly chit-chat.

[Erik Carlberg - Dating Coach for Men @ErikDatingCoach]

It becomes problematic when it’s constant—when it’s chronic—when reaction-seeking becomes a default mode.

Women can often sense when we’re like this. It’s transparent and obvious.

The other extreme is NEVER caring how our actions are being received.

[Erik Carlberg - Dating Coach for Men @ErikDatingCoach]

We’ve all been there…

You say something, and then you check others’ reactions.

You check HER reaction.

“Does she like me?”

“Am I being accepted?”

To a certain degree, this is natural.

It’s normal to want to know how others are receiving us, especially a woman of interest.

[Erik Carlberg - Dating Coach for Men @ErikDatingCoach]

Yes, I want guys to get results.
Yes, there’s science and reason to my teachings.
But if a guy is getting results, while not feeling like himself, those results will eventually plateau.
His motivation will decline.
Our best game can’t be replicated—not in the truest sense, anyway

[Erik Carlberg - Dating Coach for Men @ErikDatingCoach]

When it comes to developing game, I do my best to instill a sense of artistic efficacy—artistic integrity, if you will—in all of my clients.
I want them running a style of game that feels real—that’s authentic.
(Podcast with Tru and his crew on Green Room Radio—Las Vegas, 2026.)

[Erik Carlberg - Dating Coach for Men @ErikDatingCoach]

@AlexRKnightIII They’re too competitive. Clashing of opinions.

[Erik Carlberg - Dating Coach for Men @ErikDatingCoach]

Teaching Mystery’s M3 Model in Las Vegas (2025).

Vegas 2026 bootcamp: done!

Next weekend… Los Angeles!

DM for details!

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[Erik Carlberg - Dating Coach for Men @ErikDatingCoach]

@AlexRKnightIII RJ doesn’t really collaborate with others. Just for podcasts and those sorts of things.

[Erik Carlberg - Dating Coach for Men @ErikDatingCoach]

@AlexRKnightIII Yes. I am teaching Vortex concepts on bootcamp this year 🏆 Honored!