Ernest Toho

Africa's King of Matchmaking | Dating Coach | Founder, Justified Connect (JC) Singles World. Get the book:

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SINGLES! Here are 5 examples of DATING PROFILES that actually work, filters first, personality second. Read them. Then fix yours. 👇 @channelafrica1 @Powerfm987 @SABCNews @BMoshatama @taupalesavoice @RefilweSeboko @ms_tourist @MbuyiseniNdlozi

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PROFILE 4 — Man, 28, Never Married "Let me be straight with you from line one, I am not here for situationships, talking stages or undefined connections. I am 28, I have a plan for my life and a relationship is part of that plan.

I am looking for a woman between 25 and 33 who wants a committed relationship leading to marriage within a realistic timeframe. I am Soweto-born, working in IT, and I am buying my first property this year.

I need a woman who is building something too, not necessarily in the same field, but with the same drive. I am not looking for perfection. I am looking for alignment. I play football on Saturday mornings, I cook better than most people expect, and I will remember your mother's birthday. If you want something real, I am right here.

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PROFILE 3 — Woman, 52, Widowed "I am a widow of four years. I am not here out of loneliness; I have a full life. I am here because I believe I have more love to give and I am not willing to let grief be the last word.

I am looking specifically for a widower, preferably with adult children, as mine are grown. I am not interested in men who have never been married, and I am not looking for something casual.

I am 52, I am Zulu, I am based in Durban and I am not relocating. The man I am looking for is emotionally healed enough to honour what he had and still open enough to build something new.

I am a retired nurse, I love gospel music, I grow my own vegetables, and my grandchildren are the joy of my life. If you are serious, grounded and ready, I would love to hear from you."

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PROFILE 2 — Man, 47, Divorced "Divorced father of two, my kids are 19 and 22 and doing well. I am not looking to replace what I had. I am looking to build something new, intentionally.

I am open to marriage if we grow into it, but I will not be rushed and I will not rush you. I am specifically looking for a woman between 38 and 50 who has also been married before and understands that a second chance at love requires patience, honesty and emotional maturity.

No young women looking for a father figure. No one still healing from a fresh breakup. I need someone who has done the work on herself. I work in the mining industry, I braai on Sundays, I read more than people expect, and I will always tell you the truth even when it is uncomfortable. If that sounds like your kind of man, let's talk."

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PROFILE 1 — Woman, 34, Never Married "I am here for marriage and I am ready now. I am a Christian woman, 34, never married, no children , and I want both. I am looking for a never-married or divorced man, between 32 and 42, who is equally ready and not still 'figuring things out.'

Must be employed or running his own business, financial stability is non-negotiable for me. Relocating is on the table if the right person is not in my city. I am not interested in long-distance with no clear plan.

I am a primary school teacher who loves cooking for people I care about, enjoys hiking on weekends, and laughs loudly and without apology. I am emotionally available, I know what I want, and I will not waste your time. Please do not waste mine."

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PROFILE 5 — Woman, 39, Divorced, No Interest in Remarriage "I want to be completely clear, so nobody's time is wasted, I am not looking for marriage. I was married for nine years, and I have made peace with the fact that that chapter is closed for me.

What I am looking for is a genuine, committed romantic companionship. A real partner. Someone I choose every day and who chooses me, without a certificate. I have two children, ages 11 and 14, and they will always come first.

I am looking for a man who respects that without needing to be their father figure. I am 39, I am Cape Town-based, and I am not doing long distance. Must be independent, emotionally and financially. Drama-free is not optional.

I run my own interior design business, I am passionate about African art, and I make excellent wine choices. If you are a grown man who knows what he wants and is comfortable with what I've described, let's have a real conversation."

[Ernest Toho @ErnestTohoSaid]

SINGLES! Here are 5 examples of DATING PROFILES that actually work, filters first, personality second. Read them. Then fix yours. 👇 @channelafrica1 @Powerfm987 @SABCNews @BMoshatama @taupalesavoice @RefilweSeboko @ms_tourist @MbuyiseniNdlozi

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Which profile style fits you?
otherwise, which style do you like the most.

[Ernest Toho @ErnestTohoSaid]

SINGLES! Here are 5 examples of DATING PROFILES that actually work, filters first, personality second. Read them. Then fix yours. 👇 @channelafrica1 @Powerfm987 @SABCNews @BMoshatama @taupalesavoice @RefilweSeboko @ms_tourist @MbuyiseniNdlozi

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PROFILE 5 — Woman, 39, Divorced, No Interest in Remarriage "I want to be completely clear, so nobody's time is wasted, I am not looking for marriage. I was married for nine years, and I have made peace with the fact that that chapter is closed for me.

What I am looking for is a genuine, committed romantic companionship. A real partner. Someone I choose every day and who chooses me, without a certificate. I have two children, ages 11 and 14, and they will always come first.

I am looking for a man who respects that without needing to be their father figure. I am 39, I am Cape Town-based, and I am not doing long distance. Must be independent, emotionally and financially. Drama-free is not optional.

I run my own interior design business, I am passionate about African art, and I make excellent wine choices. If you are a grown man who knows what he wants and is comfortable with what I've described, let's have a real conversation."

[Ernest Toho @ErnestTohoSaid]

Which profile style fits you? otherwise, which one do you like the most.

[Ernest Toho @ErnestTohoSaid]

Here are 5 examples of DATING PROFILES that actually work, filters first, personality second.

Read them. Then fix yours. 👇👇

[Ernest Toho @ErnestTohoSaid]

Most dating profiles are a waste of everyone's time. Not because people are boring, but because they lead with the wrong things entirely.

You spend three weeks talking to someone before discovering they want casual and you want marriage. Or they want kids and you're done with that chapter. Or they're in another province with no intention of moving.

That is not bad luck. That is a profile that failed to do its job.

A great dating profile is not about being the most interesting person on the app. It is about making sure the RIGHT person stops scrolling, and the WRONG person keeps going.

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PROFILE 5 — Woman, 39, Divorced, No Interest in Remarriage
"I want to be completely clear, so nobody's time is wasted, I am not looking for marriage. I was married for nine years, and I have made peace with the fact that that chapter is closed for me.

What I am looking for is a genuine, committed romantic companionship. A real partner. Someone I choose every day and who chooses me, without a certificate.

I have two children, ages 11 and 14, and they will always come first. I am looking for a man who respects that without needing to be their father figure. I am 39, I am Cape Town-based, and I am not doing long distance. Must be independent, emotionally and financially. Drama-free is not optional.

I run my own interior design business, I am passionate about African art, and I make excellent wine choices. If you are a grown man who knows what he wants and is comfortable with what I've described, let's have a real conversation."

[Ernest Toho @ErnestTohoSaid]

PROFILE 4 — Man, 28, Never Married
"Let me be straight with you from line one, I am not here for situationships, talking stages or undefined connections. I am 28, I have a plan for my life and a relationship is part of that plan. I am looking for a woman between 25 and 33 who wants a committed relationship leading to marriage within a realistic timeframe.

I am Soweto-born, working in IT, and I am buying my first property this year. I need a woman who is building something too, not necessarily in the same field, but with the same drive. I am not looking for perfection. I am looking for alignment.

I play football on Saturday mornings, I cook better than most people expect, and I will remember your mother's birthday. If you want something real, I am right here."