There’s a lot here to unpack…
And I hope elders and government are reading these kind of posts.
These are some of the reasons why 16,000 doctors left in less than 10 years.
This is also why 4,700 left in 2024 and we graduated approximately 3,000 same year leaving a net negative outflow of over a 1,000 doctors.
This trend appears to have held up in 2025. We are waiting to see the full numbers in 2024 from the NBS. And also see what 2026 holds for us.
This is also why another approximately 10,000 to 15,000 more doctors are predicted to leave Nigeria over the next 5-7 years.
These numbers become more scary when you juxtapose it against our population growth.
Serving as a leader of NARD and having interfaced with Government on these issues, I can tell you these predictions WILL come to pass.
An Advise pls.
Check the Mental Health of any Doctor you know close to you. We are really going through a lot.
all relationships can survive mistakes, but they cannot survive patterns. Repeated behavior isn't a mistake, it's a decision, apologies lose meaning when the actions never change
It's usually a dicey situation though. This same thing happened to a female friend of mine... Plus being an A student she always bags fine boys but when we got the invite for her wedding the man was miles far from out thoughts. I thought I was being petty until I heard from her closest friend that even her was shocked too. I asked her directly (cus she is like a sister you me) I says Kenny no lie for me why this man?... She smiled and said bro I expected you to be surprised but I figured out that peace and sanity of mind is more important than fine boy face.
After their first child I visited her and I understood her better I smiled and told her now I fully understand and I agree with what you told me the other time.
I know some people might switch the talk in the direction of cheating but sometimes it's just that one unexpect thing that just makes the difference.
There is a mistake we men are making we don't want to admit;
Men will nack girl wey dey relationship
Men will nack girl wey dey married
Men will nak girl wey dey engaged
Now because you all have seen how they have treated their partners, you are afraid to have a girlfriend or marry because you don't want to experience what you did to another man.
Inasmuch as we are telling women to close their legs and zip up their clothes, men! Zip up your trousers and close your legs, stop nacking women wey dey relationship, stop nacking women wey don marry!!
If we are not ready that men are also part of this problems, then Salvation is not close to us.
You owe it to yourself not to marry a poor woman, a struggling woman, a woman ten layers below your income bracket, an “industrious woman” - whatever that nonsense means - or a financially unreliable woman. You are not guaranteed loyalty, nor a “forever,” with a poor woman, regardless of the sacrifices you make.
I say this for two reasons.
First, poor people cannot, do not, and will not make substantial sacrifices in relationships.
Second, a union with a poor woman overburdens you with the responsibility of manufacturing in her the capacity to be useful, reliable, and functional. You are forced to invest excessively just to make an adult out of a wife for the objective reason of meeting economic demands and ensuring sustenance in the event of instability or calamity. This is too much burden for a man. And doing too much for a woman, or for a relationship with one, is a mutilation of cosmic intelligence and design - you will be punished for it. You will.
However, the deeper point is this: poverty incapacitates people. In this context, it makes them incapable of sacrifice - of investing, gifting, supporting, and contributing meaningfully. Poverty, or the loud asymmetry of financial capacity, excuses women from contribution to the relationship. And it is for this sole reason, that a poor woman will not tangibly contribute to the relationship, that you must not marry one.
Women have a sharp memory of their sacrifices but a dull memory of their privileges. A woman, therefore, cannot be loyal to your sacrifices, because your sacrifices are her privileges. Loyalty to a cause is a function of the memory of the sacrifices made for that cause. A woman will therefore be loyal to the cause that contains her sacrifices, and to the man with whom she made them.
The litmus test for a woman’s loyalty, and consequently the durability of her companionship, is the amount of sacrifice she has made with you.
The point is not that you should not sacrifice for the woman or the marriage. The point is that you must first marry a woman who shares the capability for that relational necessity: sacrifice itself.
Do not marry dependency and call it love. Do not adopt an adult and call it partnership. And do not mistake your endless giving for loyalty earned. A relationship survives not on one person’s sacrifices, but on the mutual memory of sacrifice. I have said enough.
a long time ago a friend told me that the seeds of failure in a relationship, the reasons you break up, are always present in the beginning of a relationship
it's always held true
If you love someone because they love you, that is empathy. If you love someone for their beauty, that is attraction. If you love someone for what they offer, that is interest.
If you love someone for their kindness, that is admiration. But when you cannot fully explain why you love them, only that your heart does, that is love.