Narcissists don't have empathy; that's why they are very dangerous for your mental health.
They are not broken. They are built differently. Love will not fix what was never there. They do not misunderstand you. They understand you perfectly, then exploit it.
Your kindness is access. Your forgiveness is a pattern they repeat. You are not in a relationship. You are in a cycle designed to keep you confused enough to stay.
See it clearly. Then leave. Not for them to notice. For you to survive.
E.L. James wasn't a random stranger. Her and her entire family sat on my friend's list for over 12yrs. She knew my book was for sale since 2005. How did it become Fifty Shades?
A house built on another woman's tears will NEVER prosper.
You can build it. You can move in together. You can post the happy photos and play perfect couple. But it will never truly prosper.
Because foundations built on betrayal are cursed from the very start. Relationships that began in deception will be sustained by it. Love that started by destroying someone else's heart will eventually destroy itself from within.
You think you won. You got the man, the relationship, the life she had. But what you actually got is someone who already proved he's fully capable of betrayal. Someone who left complete destruction in his path to get to you. Someone whose word means absolutely nothing when something shinier comes along.
And that foundation? It's already cracked before you even moved in. Because every time you argue, you'll wonder if he'll do to you exactly what he did to her. Every time he's distant, you'll question if there's someone new waiting in the wings. Every moment of happiness will be shadowed by the knowledge of how you actually got it.
Meanwhile, the woman whose tears you built your house on? She's healing. She's growing stronger. She's being blessed because God doesn't abandon the faithful. He removes the unfaithful and blesses those who endure.
What the enemy meant to destroy her is actually slowly destroying you. Because guilt is a heavy foundation to build on. Karma is a patient landlord who always collects. And tears shed in betrayal become seeds of blessing for those who survive it.
A house built on another woman's tears will NEVER prosper. It might stand for a season, but it will never be blessed. Mark my words.
Remember that.
QUIET ABUSE:
THINGS NARCISSISTS DO THAT NO ONE ELSE SEES
1. Silent Treatment β They ignore you for hours or days to punish you.
2. Gaslighting β They make you question your own memory or reality.
3. Backhanded Compliments β Insults disguised as praise.
4. Emotional Withholding β They refuse affection, support, or validation.
5. Blame Shifting β Everything somehow becomes your fault.
6. Playing the Victim β They twist the story so others feel sorry for them.
7. Subtle Put-Downs β Small comments meant to slowly destroy confidence.
8. Triangulation β They involve other people to create jealousy or competition.
9. Moving the Goalposts β No matter what you do, itβs never good enough.
10. Public Charm, Private Cruelty β They appear kind to others but different behind closed doors.
11. Ignoring Your Boundaries β They pretend not to hear your needs or limits.