wife [& ex wife] mum [& step mum] venting frustrations caused by bitter vengeful biological mother [#BM] & surviving BM rants w. help from #twitterstepmoms
Since last tweet. Youngest SD turned 18 & diagnosed w. stage 4 brainstem glioma. Chemo tablets & radiation since early Dec 2020. First few wks BM super friendly to H but as $ involved she has reverted to victim mentality & manipulation. Here we go again! #BMchallenges#neverends
SD16 at open school, dyed hair blue/green, septum piercing & attitude beyond belief. Has become what we call [in Australia] an #esshay or simply low rent. Has told H my silence bothers her. Not cos she mourns our r/ship but cos it takes her out of her comfort zone. #suckitup
BM booked 3 week holiday to Europe when SD16 lives w. us full time & she paid CSA. Yet claims to be “broke”. It’s not like new H is paying for her - he refuses to share money or expenses! #smellsfishy#BMmakesownrules#BMcrapparent
BM refuses to buy SD16 ANY clothes as paid CSA for 18mths when living w. us. Despite being back 50:50 now. But BM has booked holiday to Europe! Talk about putting your needs above your children #BMbadparent#TwitterStepmoms#pathetic
One tradition we est. as blended fam was all meals together & at table. So am shocked to learn not only do BM & new H eat together but SD16 eats in her room & makes own dinner most nights #burnswater#culinarychallenged#TwitterStepmoms#twitterstepmums
SD16 going off rails so H emails BM asks to discuss & work together. No surprise BM is passive aggressive & combative in response! Accuses me of cyber-bullying which is odd as I’ve never contacted her / tagged / tweeted / nor named & shamed #thiscouldallbefiction
Have kept a low profile of late...struggling w. my role as step parent but regardless, wanting to give all the biological / non-biological / foster / adoptive / whatever...mothers / carers / maternal caretakers a BIG high five & loving hug for all your awesomeness #keepitup
5wks since her return to BMs w. no explanation & txt to me saying I am main reason she left & now SD16 asked H if she can come back! Once again am conflicted. H wants her back, I don’t! 10yrs of parenting only to have her be so cruel & selfish. #amdone
Have come to realisation SD16 is on her own journey & all my mothering is futile. She needs to find her own way, make her own mistakes & hopefully learn from them. My focus is improving me...being a happier, healthy individual. #twitterstepmoms#hardlessontolearn#amdone
When your SD16 hasn’t spoken to her dad for weeks so you text her to help both of them & end up copping her abuse & H’s for interfering! #canIhaveadoover#notthebestday#twitterstepmoms
Saga continues w.SD16 citing “treated like criminal” cos we have Life360 app that shows her movements yet still manages to smoke weed, drink & have sex! Is currently trying to negotiate more freedom before she returns. BM giving into every demand to keep her & not have to pay us
Just when you think you’ve heard the last from BM [& simply take her monthly CSA], SD16 decides to run back to her as H mad she’s not doing school work [mostly night before due or once teacher chases] added to that marijuana & chlamydia test found left behind! #twitterstepmoms
11pm SD16 calls H [from room] - has anxiety & needs to see BM. Upset during day as teacher suggested she has ADHD. Really tough as BM fills skids heads w. lies that: H doesn’t believe mental health issues exist, over dramatises any ailment & blames everyone else #sagacontinues
SD16 started trial in new job so BM turns up to wave & take photos! Seriously?! It’s her 3rd job so hardly a milestone & what teen likes that sort of attention?? First job BM rang to ask employer when she finished. #crazyBM#twitterstepmoms#coolnotcool
SD16 had lunch w. BM & SD23 today but has no $$...so BM still bitter about paying H let SD23 pay for her. NB: BM earns $120k & SD23 is F/T student w. P/T job!! Absolutely stunned by her petty behaviour #twitterstepmoms#toocheaptopay
For 9yrs BM told my skids I’m evil...“ALL step mothers are evil” but now 12mths as step mother to adults [has never raised, lived with or had jealous BM to deal with] she refers to her new skids as “bonuskids” ummm forgive me if I find that a little hard to take #twitterstepmoms
BM has 50th b’day party & SD16 going so H bought BM Lush soap [her fav.] but didn’t tell SD16 it was called “karma” exact soap BM gave me as 1st xmas gift from skids [9 yrs ago]...along w. lubricant & men’s jocks for H. #karmaisabitch#twitterstepmoms