@sista_afia you can want. It protects you, n it protects ur future child. De hard part today is that holding that standard means you will have to say no more often. You will have to disappoint feelings, including your own, and walk away from chemistry that isn't paired with character.
@sista_afia We don't have to, wanting your child to have a father who is present and committed to you both, is a healthy desire. It means you understand what a child actually needs. Your instinct for "I want love AND commitment AND family together" is, to me, one of de most grounded things