My man told me something the other day that lowkey rearranged my brain a little.
He said, “I’m not here to control you. I’m not your father, I’m your partner. You’re grown, you can make whatever choices you want. Just know every choice comes with consequences. If you pick something that hurts what we built, that decision belongs to you.”
Then he goes, “I’m always gonna tell you when something hurts me or crosses a boundary, because that’s how real communication works. But if I show you where the line is and you keep stepping over it, then you’re not protecting us… you’re just choosing yourself.”
And yeah… that’s when it clicked for me. Accountability in a relationship isn’t yelling, rules, or control. It’s someone giving you freedom and trusting you to care enough not to misuse it.
This age hits hard.
Career pressure, daily responsibilities, big dreams, marriage talks, and aging parents, all at once. Just trying to survive and find meaning.
Got diamonds on my neck
Got diamonds on my records
Since 16 comin’ down, riding lexus
How you gone neglect this
You was just a hot mess
You can call Tyrone
You ain’t got to lie, Craig
hey trust me ..you don’t need to comment on anyone’s acne scars, dark circles, frizzy hair, thin edges, height, weight gain or loss, or any part of their body the second you see them. they already know.. they live in that skin every single day.. they don’t need a reminder. grow
Yeah this ain’t it gang. lol
That’s why y’all relationships don’t go past the 3 month honeymoon phase.
You subconsciously teach yourselves divorce and then want to be married, have the wife/husband and kids.
Shit hits the fan and y’all’s mindset is:
“Okay since you wont and can’t give it to me, I’ll find someone who will.” >> only to discover that, yes they can do it, but they’re hiding other bullshit that you can’t deal with. Then the cycle repeats .
We’re all people dealing with unhealed trauma, unlearning bad habits, and figuring ourselves out .. but are choosing to run from help because being critiqued by our partner gets our feelings hurt .. shits crazy out here.