normalize saying “unfortunately you’re no longer a safe person for me and I refuse to continually sacrifice my nervous system to make you feel comfortable”
i'm in love with this quote:
"if you're persistent, you'll get it. if you're consistent, you'll keep it. and if you're grateful, you'll attract more of it."
Mistakenly ask a toddler to pray:
“In Jesus name
Thank you for mummy
Thank you for daddy
Thank you for my brother
Thank you for my baby sister
Thank you for aunty Tola
Thank you for Uncle Niyi
Thank you for aunty Doyin
Thank you for uncle Martin
Thank you for Grandma
Thank you for grandpa
Thank you for… for…
Thank you for EVERYBODY!
Thank you for Adeola
Thank you for my friend, Jaden
Thank you for my friend, Toye
Thank you for my friend, Ire
Thank you for Mrs Funsho
Thank you for Mrs Franca
Thank you for…
Thank you for… forrrr…”
Mum: …in Jesus name we pray?
Toddler: in Jesus name we Pray
42 years. What a gift. 🤍 Today we’re celebrating God’s faithfulness, His goodness, and the beautiful journey He has carried us through together. God has been so good.
Happy anniversary to us, and happy anniversary to everyone celebrating love today.
Amaka went to get pads. She wanted to get 3. Then she checked her purse, looked at the price tag, and did the math. She could only afford 1. Last month, she could afford 3 packs. Today, only a single pack.
Getting married is an act of faith, because there’s no perfect partner and no perfect readiness to marry.
There’s only, “I have entered this covenant trusting that He who began this good work in us will bring it to completion.”
I’m 26, single, and living alone in a mini-flat in Ipaja.
Last year I interviewed for a “Content Lead” role in Ikoyi at ₦300k. After four rounds, the HR said in the final chat: “You’re our pick. You can resume Dec 4th.”
That same week, I resigned from my ₦160k job and bought a new blazer for the role. On Dec 1st: “Hi, we’ve paused hiring till Q2. Apologies.”
Just like that—no job. Rent was due Jan 2nd, and I had ₦62k saved. Oh Lord, what do I do? How will I survive?
I kept applying nonstop—four interviews a week, all virtual and data-draining. One HR ghosted me after I spent two hours on their unpaid test project. Another said, “You’re great but we need someone with agency experience,” even though the job post said entry-level.
What broke me wasn’t the money. It was the silence. I’d wake up, send 10 applications, then sit in my room till night. My phone became my enemy. Every notification made my heart jump, then drop when it was just MTN. I stopped replying to friends because “What are you doing now?” felt like judgment.
Christmas came. I told everyone I was working from home. I ate Indomie and eggs alone on Dec 25th while watching people post family photos. I wasn’t hungry—I was invisible.
I started doubting everything: Am I dumb? Do I smell in interviews? Should I just marry someone? Rejection became my daily routine.
On Jan 3rd, an old freelance client DM’d: “You still write? I need someone. ₦250k per month.” No interview. Just “Send account. A colleague of mine would be needing your service as well. I already told her about you but I wanted to confirm from you first.”
And that’s how I got my life back.
Job hunting as a single lady in Lagos isn’t just rejection emails. It’s calculating if you can afford to stay safe while broke. Job loss isn’t just finances—it’s your self-worth evaporating in real time.
No one tells you “You’re still smart” after the 20th “We regret” email. You have to be your own cheerleader when you don’t even believe in yourself.
Lessons learned: Never resign without a signed contract and first salary date. Verbal offers are lies. Being a single young lady means some men will test you—if the job needs dinner, it’s not a job. Lastly, your emergency fund is your dignity. Even ₦50k saved stops you from saying yes to trash.
I’m okay now. But I don’t wish that quiet loneliness on anyone.
I just witnessed an accident in Surulere, rider was hit and fell off his bike, hit is head on the ground and started seizing violently and bleeding from his nose.
Our skulls are very very fragile and a helmet would have saved him.
Please if you're riding a bike, wear a good helmet ⛑️. If you have a business where you employ dispatch riders, they must wear their helmets or get fired. It’s the best investment to making you get home safe.
I'm ready to make waves again🌊
I made my first $$ in Web3 during Wave 1. I'm sat for Wave 2!
For Wave 2, I'm locked in to build in the @StellarOrg ecosystem with @dripsnetwork 🌊🌊
Github: rayeberechi
Let's get it 💪🏽
I'm ready to make waves again🌊
I made my first $$ in Web3 during Wave 1. I'm sat for Wave 2!
For Wave 2, I'm locked in to build in the @StellarOrg ecosystem with @dripsnetwork 🌊🌊
Github: rayeberechi
Let's get it 💪🏽