Marriage isn’t about 50:50. It’s not about 100:0 either.
Yesterday I wasn’t feeling well. Husb bought us dinner from pasar malam and fed me medicine while I was in bed. He ironed the clothes for us and the kids, did the laundry and washed the dishes.
Today, he went to bed early. Just after Isyak, he dozed off. I could see how exhausted he was. So I took care of the rest of the house chores, ironing the clothes, doing the laundry and washing the dishes.
You see, yesterday, it was 30:70. And today, it’s 70:30. The ratio is never fixed. Sometimes it’s 55:45. Sometimes it’s 60:40. Depends on day. Sometimes it even got to 43.8:56.2
Marriage is about partnership. It’s about complementing and backing each other up. You can’t define it by an exact ratio. As long as both respect each other, understand partnership and responsibility, they’ll make it, insyaAllah.
An Israeli prisoner in Gaza
Alexander Turbanov, gave a surprising statement from occupied Israel upon his return:
“Your kindness will forever be etched on my soul.
I spent 498 days among you.
Despite the oppression and aggression you endured,
I learned from you the true meaning of manhood, pure bravery, humanity, and respect for values.
Even in captivity, you were free,
while I, being free, was a prisoner.
You protected my life.
Like a father treats his sons with love,
you cared for my dignity, health, and honor.
Though I was in the hands of people fighting for their land and stolen freedom,
and while my government was committing the worst genocide against a besieged nation,
you neither starved me nor humiliated me.
I saw the real meaning of manhood in your eyes.
I understood the value of sacrifice by living among you.
I saw you smiling even in the face of death,
against an enemy armed with weapons of mass destruction,
while you had nothing but your own bodies.
Even if I tried, I couldn’t find the words
to truly express your worth and status,
or to reflect my astonishment and admiration for your noble character.
Does your faith really teach you to treat prisoners this way?
How great is that belief
that raises you to such a level
where all man-made laws of human rights fall apart,
and all protocols of war pale in comparison to your example.
Even in the harshest of times, your justice and mercy stood out —
not just as slogans,
but in your actual behavior.
You never compromised on your principles,
no matter how dark the circumstances were.
Believe me, if I ever return,
I will live among you as a dedicated student,
because I have learned the truth from your people.
I have realized that you are not just the owners of the land,
but the owners of principles and justice.”
🇮🇱 Israeli soldier: Maybe you think you are in Malmo; you are not in Malmo, my friend. Okey?
🇸🇪 Young Man: You maybe think you are in Israel?
🇮🇱 Israeli soldier: I am in Israel.
🇸🇪 Young Man: You are in Palestine.