Fatisel

[Olaide of Manchester | The Social Worker @Iamlyday1]

I watched this video expecting to come away thinking about the realities of raising a child with significant additional needs. Instead, I found myself reading the comments and wondering how we still have such a poor understanding of disability in 2026.

What struck me was not people acknowledging that caring for a child with complex needs can be difficult. That is simply reality. Parents and carers live that reality every single day and there is nothing wrong with speaking honestly about it.

What unsettled me was how quickly the conversation moved from ‘this looks hard’ to ‘this child should never have been born.’

I saw comments suggesting she should have been terminated. Comments suggesting her life was a burden. Comments suggesting that the mother’s devotion and care were somehow evidence that the pregnancy should have been terminated.

As a social worker who has spent years working alongside disabled children, disabled adults and families caring for children with additional needs. I have seen exhaustion, grief, parents worry endlessly about the future, siblings make sacrifices, families fighting for support that should never have been so difficult to access.

But I have also seen is love, joy, connection, resilience, humour, achievement and lives that have value far beyond the limitations that other people place upon them.

The little girl in this video is not a thought experiment. She is not a political argument about abortion. She is not a cautionary tale. She is a child. A child whose life has worth simply because she exists.

You do not have to pretend that raising a child with significant disabilities is easy. It isn’t. You do not have to believe you would personally be able to cope with that level of responsibility. Many people probably couldn’t.

But there is a huge moral difference between acknowledging the challenges of disability and deciding that a disabled person’s life is less valuable than anyone else’s.

Perhaps what disturbed me most was realising that some people watched that mother’s patience, love and commitment and saw tragedy. I watched the same video and saw a mother doing her absolute best for a daughter she clearly adores.

If your first reaction to a vulnerable child is to question whether they should exist, then the issue is not the child. The issue is what has happened to our capacity for empathy.

[Cedar You @our_decay]

The seasons from my bedroom window

[De-loh Pwachom. @teemama2810]

#11,500
Almost 9 weeks old.
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[Fatisel @Fatis3l]

@teemama2810 Hi dear, It's been a long time o...I'm doing well, i hope you too?

[Fatisel @Fatis3l]

@peanutbuhtha @tomisin_ms Marie Antoinette. Exactly my thoughts when i saw it🤦🏻‍♀️

[Fatisel @Fatis3l]

@Wulengme @Jamfat_ 🤣🤣😂😂well done sir🙌🏾

[UI/UX @Ajayfizzy]

Can't wait for this to become fashion 🥲

[Fatisel @Fatis3l]

@Wulengme @Jamfat_ "Shetmen" 🤣🤣😂😂

[PharmJam @Jamfat_]

Right on my reading schedule, my mental health is top notch, I have grown spiritually this quarter and entered my “30 &hot” era Behind on health goals but Q2 looks promising.

[Ancin Bruni🐉 @AncinBruni29998]

My Pastor: No reward for "Sinners"

Me:

[Lotus Tea and Quesadillas🇲🇽🍵 @LotusesK]

“Why don’t you like dancing in public?”

*Dancing at a party when I was 6 years old*

MC: Is he the winner!??

Crowd: NOOOOOOOOO!!

Me:

[Fatisel @Fatis3l]

@eziokwu4L @FEMMY466 🤣😂😂now, when you put it like that...🤣😂😂

[𝐊𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐒𝐮𝐤𝐮𝐧𝐚 ☢ @King_Sukunaaa]

It can do, but only once.

[khaleesi🧍🏽‍♀️ @shelovesore]

De-center food?

[PharmJam @Jamfat_]

Let the pros do it!

Told my sister I’d DIY my wedding makeup. She roasted my ‘obsession’😂 .Almost went for it but booked a makeup artist last minute.
The makeup was flawless,I had zero stress & it was pic-perfect.Sometimes ‘I got this’ needs to become ‘Let the pros handle it’

[David Hundeyin @DavidHundeyin]

I think the Nigerian people living on another continent who used their resources to arrest and prosecute this nobody that looks like he's still writing JAMB should be feeling very happy and smug with their decision.

Because this story encapsulates everything that is hopeless about Nigerian people. From the working-class-traitor diasporans who make their living from selling the social media equivalent of codeine to the people they left behind, and who choose to use the resources they extract to lord it over them instead of organising to do anything remotely positive in Nigeria; to the "law enforcement" whose definition of enforcing law is to do whatever anybody with some 3 kobo wants them to do; to the celebrity NGO lawyer who loves occurrences like this and doesn't want anything to change in Nigeria because Nigeria's dysfunction is how he justifies his dollar grants; to the wretched of the earth at the centre of the case who looks like he's still a virgin, but has already totally given up on himself and committed to a life of being utterly useless useless to himself and the world around him.

It gives me no pleasure to say it, but the British and American colonial psychologists who created the post-independence Nigerian human mind were truly excellent at their job. They created the most perfect colonial subject in the world - a sorry native who can exist at depths of suffering unknown to man and still retain a ferociously anti-revolutionary mindset whose central animating tenet is to always deliberately sell the person next to you instead of even entertain the thought of teaming up with them to achieve something that might benefit the collective.

Virgin-looking idiot: Uses monetised shitposting, rage-farming strategy to sell fellow Africans for American subsidy billionaire's monthly payout. Cannot conceive of anything bigger and more sustainable for himself. Already given up on living long or being useful to the planet before his 23rd birthday.

Mr & Mrs Digital Codeine Purveyors: Sell fellow Africans for brand partnership payments, BTL PR campaign payments, American social media creator payouts, and everything in between. Lives in 1st world country, but income and way of life depends on extracting internet value from shrinking, desperately impoverished market back home in Nigeria. Do not see themselves as part of Nigerian collective, but as individuals who have "escaped." Eager to flex their newfound status as members of pseudo-elite diaspora class and perpetuate the dysfunction back home with their money instead of organising to contribute to a revolution in any way.

Celebrity NGO lawyer: Sells his fellow Africans by pretending to fight their legal battles on their behalf, while actually putting on a kabuki theatre show for the benefit of American funding entities who will write him another cheque with many zeroes before the end of Q1 2026. Absolutely loves everything about the status quo because it guarantees him a well paid job, social currency, high levels of societal access, and future potential to rise into electoral positions with foreign backing and support.

"Nigeria Police Force": Never stopped selling Africans since the days when it was a British anti-independence militia that used to arrest Nigerians campaigning for independence and lock them up at Kirikiri. Still selling Africans to whoever is willing to pay, with no concept of there possibly being something else it could do in the world forever and ever.

A country populated by people who would be more useful to the world as organic fertiliser.

[Abd. @maymayholic___]

regards

[Meg ✦ @Flicky0ps]

Fathers don't usually d¡e during childbirth

[The Air You Breathe 🌬️ @BlehisBack]

Words that can never come out of my mouth.

[Tracy B @Shut_the_fridge]

I just watched one of the most alarming AI failures I’ve ever seen from Grok on this platform.

It misidentified a Black man in a video as a monkey, repeatedly, and then doubled down on the mistake with jokes.

This is textbook racial dehumanisation.