Holding the Man hurts because Tim and John never gain the comfort of assuming their love is the greatest challenge they must endure.
They develop from teenage partners into adults while the surrounding world shifts then the AIDS crisis reshapes their bond into something far more painful than a coming-of-age romance.
John is especially striking because his strength does not lie in never breaking. He breaks, grows angry, feels fear, and continues to choose Tim.
This makes their love feel human rather than flawless.
The tragedy is not that they loved each other too much.
It is that they finally constructed a life together just as time became the element they could not control.
The same way you don't learn how to swim by reading about water......you can't become gay by reading about or watching gay people exist.
#Stopyourhate!
Limpopo Boy has been removed from Botswanaโs Creators Assembly 2026 lineup, with organizers looking for a replacement. He was set to earn R300k. The video with Matshidiso Matilda is now having serious consequences for his career & brand opportunities. Clout can be expensive.
Elon Musk who has never
Built a school in Africa
Built a university in Africa
Built a hospital in Africa
Built a library in Africa
Given an African a morsel of bread
Suddenly cares about poor black Africans. Donโt make me laugh
One thing I like about the white women during apartheid was how honest they were about how LAZY white people really are.
Today they claim they โbuiltโ everything we have, forgetting that black people even had to teach them how to bath, never mind the fact that black people are the original farmers and are the actual builders (through forced, cheap labour)
Police is the same, almost everywhere.
On October 24, 2024, San Diego Police (SDPD) responded to a domestic violence call involving a gun. They surrounded a home and ordered occupants out.
Compliance: Marcus Evans, 31, exited shirtless with his hands raised.
The Attack: While appearing compliant and unarmed, police fired multiple "less-lethal" bean bag rounds at Evans, breaking his tibia. A police dog was then released, biting Evans on the arm while he was on the ground.
Outcome: No gun was found, and Evans was not charged with a crime. In September 2025, the San Diego City Council approved an $875,000 settlement for the excessive force incident.