Tamara Mataya

New York Times/USA Today Bestselling Author, Canadian, Musician w/synesthesia. I put the SHE in TWSS & the B in LGBTQIA

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If being offended is the worst that ever happens to you, I want your "problems" and nipples as sensitive as your feelings. :D

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My fave pic of me from 2023. Sweaty af, sparkling in a tent at my 5th Regional Burning Man leave no trace camping event. Trying furiously to live again.

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@laurenspieller Me: "You guys left?!"

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https://t.co/6vV8zJLvN1

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I said what I said, as a romance author, a Canadian... & conscientious metamour.

(I know Americans spell it differently, but that ruins the pun!)

Amour=Love

#ENM #CNM #Polyamoury #Polyamory #OpenRelationships #secureattachment #polyamoryadvice #datingadvice #trustbuilding

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-My best friend has another bestie.
-My parents had 35 other kids.
-My partners have other partners! (I'm able to date people who are Consensual Non-Monogamous because my loyalty does not require exclusivity...but yours might, and that's okay! (I'm actually ambiamourous).

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@jlizhill Hiiiiiiiiiiiii <3

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Idea for a Gamer Grrl Burlesque group! The PUSSYKART DOLLS! (Mariokarts' Rosalina, Peach, Daisy, Toadette, etc. done up). Maybe a Roller Derby Team!

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BREAKING: 4 cops tied to Breonna Taylor’s death have been arrested and are set to be charged, VICE News has learned.
https://t.co/I2yKdBj30n

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5.-pairing that conversation w/a confession that you may have really hurt your partner & damaged what trust you had by acting on those feelings of insecurity in an unhealthier way. Find solutions together. Us vs The Problem, not You vs Me.
(Also not You and their phone vs Them).

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Have this. #ENM #CNM #Polyamoury #Polyamory #OpenRelationships #Tamsplaining #Polyamtam #Polytamoury #bitinerary #LoveisLove #pride #bisexual #relationshipadvice

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4. Seek gentle honesty from your partner, not information gleaned from their devices. Something's already gone sideways and you need a check-in anyways. Vulnerability can feel impossible, but this way, 1 conversation seeking reassurance/info is required, instead of

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3. Having an 'open phone policy' together is very different from someone using that privilege. (And much different from abusing it...) If you "need" to violate a loved one's privacy and risk shattering trust, please ask them instead.

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2. The unease will remain, but the impact of that trust violation on your partner will likely need awareness and effort addressing--WHEN you confess it. Gentle and direct honesty is best, even when vulnerability feels impossible.

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1. Seeking reassurance directly from your partner(s) is healthier and more likely to alleviate your underlying insecurity that needs addressing. If you invade their device, you're choosing to violate their privacy for something you may not even find...

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@BriannaShrum I saw a performance of it live a few years back and it renewed my adoration. #cornnuts https://t.co/uN7hel7AcQ

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Evergreen.

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Happy Pride! (It's always pride on my feed).

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You deserve to be understood. You're not needy for having unique needs.