Tolerating always turns to resentment. At first, you call it patience, then love. But what it really is, is self-abandonment. Every time you swallow a boundary, excuse a pattern, or silence your discomfort, something inside you keeps score. And eventually, the bill comes due.
No disrespect to anyone, but God please don’t send me another man who doesn’t know how to communicate, take accountability, or emotionally show up. I don’t want a man who’s still battling himself, avoiding healing, depressed, or emotionally unavailable and refusing help. I don’t want a man who can’t stand firm, speak for himself, or take control of his own life. I don’t want a man who belongs to someone else, is still tied to past situations, or lacks compassion, empathy, patience, and romance. I’m not built to carry a grown man through life while neglecting myself. Dealing with someone like that will drain you mentally, emotionally, and physically. I want a partner who’s already doing the work, not one I have to break myself trying to fix. Keep that kind of man far away from me.
I’ve never experienced genuine love. I’ve never had no man EVER love me the correct way, everything always turns into a lesson and I’m so tired of that.
i immediately go silent when something upsets or hurts me. it's a coping mechanism i have developed over time. instead of expressing my anger or frustration, i simply withdraw and try to process my emotions in private.
NO ONE TALKS ENOUGH ABOUT THE HEAVY REGRET YOU FEEL WHEN YOU’VE BEEN VULNERABLE WITH SOMEONE BECAUSE YOU THOUGHT IT WAS A SAFE PLACE ONLY TO FIGURE OUT IT WASN’T.
I saw a post that said:
“Men really think if you liked them once, you’ll like them forever. Baby, I don’t even like the version of me that liked you.”
Listen. YES. This