according to psychology people who often talk to themselves build fake scenarios and have full conversations in their heads often assume it’s normal. but in reality, it’s a form of self regulation, away to process emotions when there’s no one who truly understands them. 1/5
Breakups in your 30s hit differently. It's not the same as heartbreak at 21. At 21, you cry, vent to friends, go out, distract yourself, and somehow you heal. Back then, life felt long, full of possibilities, what ifs, and( second chances). But in your late 20s or as you approach your 30s, it feels different. You are not only losing a person. You are losing plans, routines, and the version of yourself that was building a future with them.
Personal experience: don’t do free work — especially for him.
I’ve worked with Nico in the past (August 2025 – and yes, I’ve got proofs). He never cleared the full payment — only paid 50% upfront, still uses my work as his own, offered some projects at insanely low rates, and then completely ghosted me without paying ( It wasn't a big amount but it is not about money - it is about respecting talent).
There’s honestly no harm in doing free work when you’re just starting out — I tried that too but it didn't work for me. But if you’re going to do it, do it for genuinely kind people who actually appreciate your effort, people whom you admire or for companies/niches you are genuinely interested in. Not for people who exploit young talent just to make a quick buck :)