I hope I never become too busy to notice the small evidence that life is going right. A good conversation. A safe journey home. A meal you enjoyed. A laugh you didn't plan. Those moments count too.
I’m begging you to kill your fear of being seen. Visibility is your birthright, People need to know you. Infact, treat showing up as putting out data that will help your people find you. You’re not showing up to and for everybody, you’re showing up to and for your people!
Life is fucking electric bro. Don’t fall for the doomer shit. Thats for losers and normies scared of their own shadows. Walk around like God sent you and smile at everyone you see. Spread light and abundance. Build things and take chances. This is the best time in history!
Marriage used to be the starting point.
Two people would come together with almost nothing to their name, but each other, and then they would build everything side by side. This process of building led to bonding, it built loyalty, it required tremendous sacrifice and most of all it taught interdependence. But now we are told the opposite. We are told instead that we need to have it all before we marry.
We need a good career, a home, a bunch of money in the bank, your entire identity discovered and solidified, a passport filled with stamps, a degree and much dating experience.
The problem with this is that by the time two people finally decide to join one another, well they have spent most of their lives learning how to do life alone.
So it is not wonder then that building a life with someone else, suddenly feels so much harder. Marriage used to be a beginning, not it is an after thought to an already built life.
Two already self-sufficient and self-reliant people do not easily merge and mesh. It is hard to go from the perspective of “mine”, to “ours”, when individualism is all we have ever known.
And this is why individualism has become the death of marriage.
Just heard a guy say to a girl” you’re used to your face, you have no idea what it’s like to see it for the first time.”
I am 100% stealing that line and using it over and over again.
Patterns I've noticed in people who aren't necessarily unhappy, but aren't going anywhere with their lives:
- Never learn anything new unless they're forced to
- Don't set goals unless their survival / finances make them insecure
- Talk about what's happening in the world rather than what they're working on
- Aren't aware of any of this, and making them aware doesn't hurts more than it helps
Hard place to be.