14/ If she doesn’t have that feeling for you early on and you are unable to engineer it at the very early stages of your attempt in wooing her, then that advice is for you.
Abort the mission.
Even if it is doing you like you are going to die.
1/When you tell a man to stop trying to impress uninterested women to win their love and to focus his efforts only on the women with natural feelings for him, he nods at you in affirmation but what he is actually hearing is:
THREAD! THREAD!! THREAD!!!
13/ So no, the advice is not saying:
“Only pursue women who already want you.”
The advice is saying:
“Learn to distinguish between low interest and high interest early enough before you destroy yourself trying to convert one into the other.”
1/ Different social situations require different mental frames to function optimally within them. The mental posture needed to conduct a surgery is not the same one required to thrive at a party or a highly social gathering.
10/ The people who seem naturally socially versatile are often just people who intuitively understand this. They understand that effectiveness is partly the ability to deliberately reconfigure yourself to meet the demands of the moment.