At my direction, following the visit of a high-level Federal Government delegation that I sent to the Esiele and Yawota communities in Oriire Local Government Area of Oyo State, I have approved the recruitment of 1,000 forest guards in collaboration with the Oyo State Government.
The thread is beautiful. I understand her. She has an incredible way of writing and her delivery is smooth and laced with opium. You don't want it to end.
However, I understand the men's frustration in the quotes because the entire thread is solipsistic and that is not a love relationship. A healthy way to enter relationship is to view it from the lens of how you want to love this person and keep pouring into them, not only having fantasy about what you expect from them to beautify your life and social media curation.
I think it is impossible to fully understand other people’s reality. We often tend to reduce understanding to gender but that doesn’t cut it.
Example:
Two friends were one is heavenly pretty and the other is invisible as though her presence is inauspicious and brings with it a tragic foreshadowing.
It is impossible for the pretty one to understand how the other friend navigates life where you have to work hard to be noticed, to be taken serious and to have meaning because for her, people are infinitely patient, kinder to her and extending exaggerated chivalry. A life where you are always an afterthought in conversation and downplayed by others in comparison with other woke and your friends. A life where grace and patience is harder to come by because you don’t look good enough to worth their stress.
The not pretty friend cannot understand how the other one navigates life because she thinks everything is easy for her. But she can’t see that it is difficult where people see your beauty and not your intelligence and don’t care for it, where every affection is laced with salacious intentions, where everyone assumes you have love in abundance even though prospective suitors expect you to be taken by someone else, where your personal struggles are not taken seriously because they expect that a call will fix it.
Most times, we don’t see people as they are. We see them from where we stand and project through our tainted glasses.