초등교사가 알려주는 뒷담화하는 사람 특징과 대처법 3가지
1. 뒷담화하는 쪽은 세 가지 패턴이 거의 정해져 있어
2. 첫 번째, “있잖아 걔 말이야”로 자리 없는 친구 이야기를 먼저 꺼냄
3. 두 번째, “너도 그렇지? 너도 싫지?”로 같이 미워해 줄 내 편을 만듦
4. 세 번째, “○○이가 너 싫대”처럼 남의 이름 뒤에 숨어서 말을 옮김
5. 사실 그 말은 본인이 하고 싶었던 쪽인 경우가 많아
6. 이유는 마음이 행복하지 않아서, 남을 깎아야 내가 나아 보이는 마음
7. 흥은 보고 싶고 책임은 지기 싫은 구조, “내가 아���라 ○○이가 그랬어”
8. 다가올 �� 대처는 세 가지. 맞장구치지 않기, “음, 나는 잘 모르겠어”
9. 이야기 돌리기, “그건 그렇고 점심 뭐 나와?”로 주제를 확 끊음
10. 좋은 점 말하기, “개 그거 부럽던데?” 한 줄로 흐름을 끊고 빠져나옴
맞장구만 안 쳐도 그 판에서 한 발 빠질 수 있다는 게 핵심.
굳이 싸울 필요 없이, 말 한 줄로 선을 긋는 쪽이 더 오래 가는 것 같음.
🙌🏼 THIS IS THE WAY PARENTS!!!
💪🏼 • Tablets. No tablets in the house at all. TV and older video games are allowed.
• Fortnite and Roblox. They play older games like Crash Bandicoot, Banjo-Kazooie, and Crash Team Racing instead.
• Daycare. She says she had a bad experience and would rather not work than put them in daycare again.
• Public school. They homeschool. She says she does not want them “indoctrinated” or “lied to the way that I was.”
• Picky-eater exceptions. They have to try what she cooks; not liking something is allowed, refusing to try it is not.
• Shutting down feelings. Fits are allowed, but they go to their room. She says she will not tell them they cannot be emotional.
• Artificial dyes. No Red 40 or similar food dyes in the house.
• Toy hoarding. They purge toys and stuffed animals about every six months.
• Her son wearing dresses, doing his nails, or wearing makeup. She says he is a boy and those are off limits.
• Politics. No political talk, no protests, nothing government-related while they are kids. She says she only knew who the president was as a child and wants the same for them.