FishtownDan

[FishtownDan @FishtownDan]

@abbythelibb_ There are instances where the wife, in this scenario, is hoping that the husband comes on too strongly so that it can be used as a means to classify him as abusive and have a “valid” reason for ending the marriage. I’d get caught up with where we actually are in the discourse.

[FishtownDan @FishtownDan]

@LizzyStarrrdust So we have to debunk choreplay for the 9384747262x now?

[FishtownDan @FishtownDan]

@opendoorforever @MaxRadniecki @xwanyex Negative. Having a lot of experience with women spanning about 25 years in age, career, background, ethnicity, as well as the reports of the litany of guys in my network, this is, in fact, the norm.

[FishtownDan @FishtownDan]

@opendoorforever @MaxRadniecki @xwanyex It’s not, it’s wife behavior.

[FishtownDan @FishtownDan]

@opendoorforever @MaxRadniecki @xwanyex You came in with a story about yours, too!

[FishtownDan @FishtownDan]

@opendoorforever @xwanyex

[FishtownDan @FishtownDan]

@RealDianeYap So, by your own estimation, fidelity is pointless too?

[FishtownDan @FishtownDan]

@bugsandfishes Here’s whats happening:

Women value men’s performance.

Therefore, men must love performing and be happy about it, since women value it.

That last part is where folks lose each other. Men follow the incentives. For a long time, career man had them. Those days are long gone.

[FishtownDan @FishtownDan]

@justiceandheels @hollowearthterf Take another SSRI and chill out. I already answered. I’ve been the primary parent more than my wife thus far. Losing sleep sucked, but good routines ironed that out. Btw, I did this intentionally to see what all the noise was about. I expected far harder.

[FishtownDan @FishtownDan]

@justiceandheels @hollowearthterf So now you’re talking about single parenthood? Stay on topic, lady. And I don’t need to offload anything. It’s not rocket science.

[FishtownDan @FishtownDan]

@MyKidsMakeStuff @hollowearthterf These relationships don’t really exist anymore. I’d suggest touching grass and familiarizing yourself with the current data regarding families today. Here ya go.

https://t.co/ex4QdvTc3L

[Lyman Stone 石來民 🦬🦬🦬 @lymanstoneky]

On average, combining market work, education, childcare, housework, eldercare, all combined, married dads do about 30 minutes *more* of work per week than married moms.

But total work burden has steadily risen for both!

[FishtownDan @FishtownDan]

@justiceandheels @hollowearthterf Indeed, I have. I’ll reiterate, putting others needs ahead of your own (especially children) isn’t hard if you’re not some kind of narcissist or self absorbed person. No one said that’s “most of parenting”, but if you have your shit together even tough times are pretty simple

[FishtownDan @FishtownDan]

@justiceandheels @hollowearthterf I have experience. Putting others needs ahead of your own isn’t hard and is a true joy watching your children figure out life with you at their side, but apparently it is based on the nightmare fuel being posted left and right. Sounds like a skill issue.

[FishtownDan @FishtownDan]

@hollowearthterf Still in that dream hypothetical torture chamber you cooked up, eh? It’s 2026. You’re operating as if it’s about 7 decades ago. Time to wake up.

[FishtownDan @FishtownDan]

@MrsMagdaBeard You had the opportunity to do whatever you wanted and chose to be the miserable, boomer father archetype to own da men. Cool story.

[FishtownDan @FishtownDan]

@geometry_curve @Rianstone Ah, when that pesky “pre frontal lobe” finally develops!

[FishtownDan @FishtownDan]

@CartoonsHateHer @Rianstone They don’t wanna be SAHDs because women don’t respect it.

[FishtownDan @FishtownDan]

@CartoonsHateHer While your not wrong, just about every woman I’ve worked with in my life has talked about wishing their husband made more so they could quit, winning the lottery so they could quit, or just wanting to be home with their kids. Outliers definitely exist, but prove the general rule

[FishtownDan @FishtownDan]

@yourannihilator It’s almost like “my body, my choice” from the sex that has unilateral control over birth happening means that they 100% control who fathers kids and who does not. Funny how that works.