Sarah Fitz-Claridge

Fallibilism; freedom; fun; optimism; creativity; chesed. Problems are soluble. Playing with ideas. Possibilities abound! Founder of Taking Children Seriously.

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Listen, by Patty Wipfler: the missing connection https://t.co/hykf835HAg

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Have you read Listen: Five simple tools to meet your everyday parenting challenges, by Patty Wipfler and Tosha Schore (2013)? Some thoughts. ⬇️

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Legitimising hurting Jews is not new. This book (published in 1656) has 126 pages of antisemitism. The King's coronation mentioned is that of King Richard I, on 3rd September 1189. Later there is a lengthy antisemitic quotation from the year 681.

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Pessimistic parents consider it immoral to behave in ways that have not been tried many times before, because they are blind to the possibility that the benefits of doing so might offset the risks. So they are intolerant and conformist.

And yet some (a few) children grow up vibrantly optimistic anyway. People are so creative!

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@sciencegirl coercion

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Does she want help solving the problem, or does she want you to listen only? If the latter, do that. If the former, and the first solution you suggest does not solve the problem for her, why should she try that idea that does not seem to solve the problem to her? A solution is an idea that does not seem problematic, not one that does seem problematic. That was just the first idea. There are plenty more where that one came from. What is her reason for not liking idea 1? That could be a clue to idea 2. Keep playing with possibilities until you find one that really seems like a solution.

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When what some might see as a problem sparks spectacular creativity. 🤸‍♀️🎨🖌️🧠💖

✨Problems are soluble.✨

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Amara Aleman, an artist with vitiligo who once hid her skin, now uses her skin as a canvas to transform her vitiligo into beautiful artworks 👏

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@remedi You are welcome.

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When a child is upset about something like this, there is a problem to solve, and there will be a reason for her strange upset, and if you remain curious about and explore what that underlying reason is, you may well discover that the problem is actually easy to solve, and she may be all smiles in a moment. Often, parents’ dark theories about what is happening bear no relationship to reality.

What is this precious child upset about, exactly? How is she interpreting the other child no longer being forced to go to school? What does that mean for her own life? Why is she not happy for him? What is it about that that feels as if it adversely affects her? WHY does it feel that way? Why exactly is she upset about this change? What is the reason? Is there another reason under that reason?

If you assume that there is something that will be understandable and resolvable and (to the extent she is open to it) explore with curiosity and optimism that even this problem is soluble, it will often turn out to be so much easier to solve than one imagined.

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@DavidDeutschOxf @VividProwess She appears rather excited by the whole thing, so maybe she is not going down that dark path but is actually happily exploring an exciting avenue of knowledge creation. ?

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Sarah Fitz-Claridge: Taking Children Seriously and freedom https://t.co/6CoEdkSDVr

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@TCSparents https://t.co/IaZ6p3ckp6

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I was alluding to fallibility and knowledge being conjectural. When a thought feels absolutely TRUE/RIGHT, sometimes one can forget that it is a conjecture that might be mistaken, and thereby potentially deprive oneself of a better idea.

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Take ideas seriously, not thoughts.

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Apologies, everyone. Dealing with a recent sudden death of a youngish father in our family. Life is (still) short. Sometimes so much shorter than you think. Live now. Love now.

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The latest censorship law “for the children”. Police diligently arresting people saying anything a government official or terrorist (excuse the redundancy) deems offensive. No time to deal with serious crime.

Petition: Repeal the Online Safety Act https://t.co/251uf6zXXk

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@Sover3ign1 @arjunkhemani @DavidDeutschOxf @NautilusMag I still have a few remaining signed first impression first edition copies of The Beginning of Infinity (and The Fabric of Reality). DMs open.

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@DavidDeutschOxf @DanielJHannan Notice the equivocation bringing to mind the good idea of cosy consent-based families etc, as an argument for coercive, creativity-destroying, innovator-hating, life-ruining communism.

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@velmeryn Yes.

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@_Anasuddin Apologies. I seem not to get notifications about DMs. I have now replied.