i’m a big fan of reciprocation. you reach out, i reach out. you’re distant, i’m distant. you check on me, i check on you. you’re inconsistent, i’m inconsistent. you spoil me, i’m gonna spoil you. i deal with people exactly how they deal with me. nothing more, nothing less.
Update your partner always. It's not a rule, It's a love language. Your partner shouldn't guess where you are. They shouldn't wonder what you're doing. Updating them is not control. It's love. It says, "You matter. I want you to know.
I tell people that when you have mastered the act of contentment, people start thinking you have everything. Contentment doesn’t cancel desire; it cancels desperation.
I think one of the most heartfelt experiences in life is discovering that someone genuinely enjoys your presence. Not what you provide, not your accomplishments.
Just you, your thoughts, your energy, your existence.
Someone once said, “You’ve already learned how to love deeply. Now you’re learning how to love wisely,” and that really stayed with me. Because sometimes the lesson isn’t to love less, it’s to stop giving your deepest love to people who don’t know how to handle it. ❤️
Somebody once asked me why I never asked them for help, and I said, “I don’t like being a bother.” That was only half the truth. I’ve heard the way they talk about the people they “help,” and honestly I’d rather struggle quietly than become someone’s story later.
Replying fast doesn’t make you desperate. It means you saw the message and wanted to reply. Stop turning basic communication into a power game. If you like someone, talk to them. Making people wait just to look “busy” isn’t attractive. It’s insecurity dressed up as confidence.
dating to marry will make you realize that the "plenty of fish in the sea" narrative is false. alot of people are really not worth that level of intimacy
normalize saying “unfortunately you’re no longer a safe person for me and I refuse to continually sacrifice my nervous system to make you feel comfortable”
if u offer me a sincere apology & change ur behavior, I'll never bring up our past issues again. But if no apology was given and ur still repeating mistakes, u can't ask me to stop mentioning the past. The "past" is actually the present if u haven't changed.
At some point in a man's life, everything seems to go wrong. People leave, doors close, and all he can do is spend time alone rebuilding himself. If you're in that season, I pray we make it through and come out stronger. May we all make it big one day. 🙏
I think one of the most heartfelt experiences in life is discovering that someone genuinely enjoys your presence. Not what you provide, Not your accomplishments. Just you, your thoughts, your energy, your existence.
you need to learn to stay away from people who make you mean, crazy or reactive. that’s not you or who you want to be. so if they being that out of you, they’ve got to go