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Can Women Choose to be Providers for their Husbands?

It became obvious to some men recently that, outside of their ability to provide for their wives and family, they really have little or no other value. When these men lost the ability to provide, their wives deserted them, and their children also left them.
This is not so in every case, but it is so in the majority of cases.

The Question is, why do women lose interest in men who cannot provide for them? Sometimes the women have their own money, and in some cases, the women are very independently rich, and yet they find themselves unattracted to men who cannot provide for them or give them the kind of lifestyle that they believe they deserve.

Should women care for men financially, similar to how men are expected to care for women?

A Gender Stereotype That Is (Unfortunately) Engraved in Our Brain

We have been taught about gender norms and stereotypes our entire lives. Some of them could be helpful, while many, unfortunately, are irrefutably harmful. This particular one is toxic, harmful, and yet engraved in our brains. Men are Providers, and A man who cannot provide is worse than an Infidel.
People extol homekeeping wives, but they look down on homekeeping husbands.

I was a homekeeping husband for several years (not by choice but because I couldn’t get gainful employment for several years while my ex-wife had a flourishing career). It was one of the most shameful positions for a man to find himself in, according to my experience. The disrespect and condescending manner in which I was treated and the names I was called by the ex-wife at that time still sting as I recall them.

I didn’t just sit at home expecting the provider to return from work and cook the meals or care for the children; I felt that would be very unfair, and it would also earn me more insults and disrespect. So I kept the house, nursed the children from as early as when they were a few days old, did school runs, was present at PTA meetings, Open Days, sports, and recitals. Most times I was the only man at such meetings. I cooked, I cleaned, I washed (Thank God for washing machines), I cleaned, and I made myself available for sex whenever my ex-wife wanted it.

To my mind, it didn’t matter who was bringing in the money; we were raising a family, and it takes both of us working together in harmony to do that. My ex-wife had a career that she kick-started at the age of eighteen. I met her when she was twenty-seven. I was twenty-nine and a fresh graduate at the time

She wanted a husband, and no other man was in her life, so she settled for me with the hope that I would get a job and become the provider. I tried everything I could to get a job at the time, but nothing panned out, and I experienced firsthand what it means for love to turn to hate. The way she looked at me changed totally. I lost all respect, and sometimes she would address me as if I were just a house help.

Expressions like “That is all you are good for, cooking, sleeping, and sex” or “I am working my ass off while you are here petting a baby and calling it a life”, I even earned the nickname “Daddy Day Care” for my troubles. Her mother didn’t spare me her condescension, either. She told me one day, “Look at how my daughter has shrunk because she is feeding you and your children while you sit and watch TV all day.”

Why is it that women cannot stand being providers for their husbands and family? Especially when the man is responsible and complementing their effort willingly while ensuring that they have the rest of mind to pursue their careers and do not have to worry about the domestic challenges.

You will hear a lady who is providing for her family talking about her husband in a denigrating manner. “I bought the shirt he is wearing”, I put some money in his pocket to give his mother the last time she came visiting”, “He is living a fake life, living off me and pretending to his family as if he is the man of the house”, “That one is also calling himself a man, someone that should drop his trousers and tie a wrapper”

Almost every woman who finds herself in the position of providing for the family dislikes the role, especially when her husband is depending on her income too.

Why is this?

Certain stereotypes have always referenced gender norms. Back in the day, men were hunters, and women cared for the house. Wait, there were no houses so women cared for… caves? Okay, let it be caves. Men were portrayed as strong, resilient, brave, courageous, and skilled enough to find, trap, catch, and bring a wild animal home to their wives and children. Women were waiting for their men at home, ready to accept the catch and make dinner for the entire family.

Or at least, this is what we have believed for a long time until recently.

According to research at the University of Michigan, women were hunters, too, and they even taught young children how to hunt.

Nowadays, the world is very different from the Stone Age. We don't need to hunt to have food for breakfast, and modern men aren't being assigned this task. There isn't a huge need for women to take care of the house, either. Any adequate adult of any gender can feed themselves, clean their home, and overall be independent without any issues. Moreover, even young children are usually self-sufficient enough to find food, clean their rooms, and go to sleep. In the event you're a lazy and incapable grown-up, there are food delivery services and cleaning companies that can assist you.

So, maybe those stereotypes don't apply anymore—or at least they don't apply to most countries in the modern world.

Man Must Be the Provider. Or Must He?
Most adults can earn a living and live decently nowadays. There is no need to be dependent on anyone. Many single parents can raise children on their own, despite it not being easy.

The world has changed, and people are quite self-reliant. But of course, not everyone wants to be this way, and certain people perpetuate the idea of a traditional family, where the man works and earns money, and the woman stays home and raises children.

I am aware of how certain women think. There are still ladies out there whose main goal is to find well-off husbands, give birth as soon as possible, and then use the child as an excuse not to work for many years or ever again. We all choose our path, but I don't think this should be how we live.

Men deserve much more than being used as money bags.

But suppose we're talking about an open-minded and progressive way of thinking. In that case, even progressive men still believe that they, as men, must be the providers, the head of the family, and protect their family at all costs, including financially. They may not admit it, but it's often on the back of their minds. And to my deepest regret, this thinking can negatively affect men and shape their decision-making process.

Please don't get me wrong; there are some positives to leaning into the old-fashioned way of thinking. It's great that men feel the commitment and responsibility to care for their children and partners. It's important to have financial stability, which is why it's great when a man who strives to provide for his family and is motivated to advance in his career starts a business, develops it, and finds ways to make his family's future more financially secure. It's also nice when a woman can feed the entire family, care for everyone, and support the children and her husband. Both of those roles are crucial for a family.

But how about making those roles interchangeable?

I'm not suggesting that a woman should build a house brick by brick and operate heavy machinery, although some women do — very few, unfortunately, only 5%

What I'm saying is we need to stop seeing each person as someone who can do only a few particular tasks and start expecting each person to be capable of completing all the family responsibilities, regardless of gender.

Yes, I know that men cannot carry children and give birth. Women also cannot create semen and impregnate themselves; however, I'm saying that the goal should be to create a partnership where either individual feels cared for, protected, sufficient, and supported by their loved one, regardless of gender.

What Happens If The Man Gets Sick or Burnt Out?

I firmly believe that a woman must be capable of taking care of her partner and children, even if her partner/husband provides an excellent financial life for them. Similarly, a man must be able to care for himself, his wife, and his kids in a domestic setting, such as feeding, cleaning, completing homework, and everything else.

I am absolutely convinced that this is how the family unit is supposed to work in harmony if we are being honest and real with one another. Unfortunately, many are in marriages to exploit their partners and live a soft life at the expense of their man

We all know what happens when one person is severely dependent on another. We've seen these examples so many times: When a man gets hurt at work, overworked and depressed, or sick physically or otherwise, and a woman is incapable of taking care of him and their children, this turns into a pivotal moment for this family.

Will the woman throw fits and claim that it's the man's job to work and support them, or will she "man up", another toxic way to refer to responsibility and taking care of her family?

Will she abandon him and look for another provider? I have heard so many young ladies saying this on social media without batting an eyelid. Will she resent him, lose all respect and regard for him, and treat him like a piece of trash because he is not providing financially or able to do so?

You may think I'm joking about women throwing fits and pushing the damaging gender stereotypes. I wish I were. I've witnessed some in person myself. I've read posts from dozens if not hundreds, of women online who didn't just complain but called their husbands names and deemed them not man enough after those men got ill or ended up in some other unfortunate trouble.

Some may not start a scandal at home, but they will tell their mother, girlfriends, and the entire Internet that their men aren't "real men" because they dared to get hurt or burnt out at work, and now it's up to her to figure things out.

I want to say that many women are that way, and many are not. (I don’t want sister Modupe Ishola and Sister Funmi Odutola to pull my ears in the DM) I don’t want to be accused of generalizing.

I am surrounded by many more good women than bad ones.

Every little boy, every teenager, and every young man hears an endless number of toxic gender stereotypes and other gender-based, very harmful rhetoric. It stays with them unless they get surrounded by the right people who change their minds.

So, the answer is yes. Yes, a woman must take care of her husband if he has an accident or gets hurt at work and needs time to heal, or has to help out on the home front so that his wife can function maximally at her job.

It doesn't matter if they are emotionally and physically overworked or simply wake up one morning and decide to take a few months off. Or maybe even a year off to enjoy life? I would be delighted if my spouse did that, and I'd like them to want the same for me.

However, money doesn't grow on trees, so both individuals must have the proper skills and work experience to support a family — that includes the women.

Conclusion
I'm a firm believer that only selfish, self-centered, and horrible individuals think that they aren't obligated to support their significant other financially.

It doesn't matter if you have children. Of course, if we're talking about a newborn who needs their mom, the baby must be latched on to mommy for a while. But once the kids are at least toddlers, you're responsible for your partner no matter what. Your spouse may need you to take the wheel at any time, whether a few years into the partnership or two decades in.

In my case, the torture lasted for ten years. By then, all the love had died, and whatever tolerance remained was on its last legs. A person can only endure so much insult and inhumane treatment in a lifetime, especially as the children started growing up and witnessing the inhumane treatment I was suffering from their mother for being unable to provide.

She was the type that would call the children and say, “Your father did not put in a penny towards your school fees, mummy is the only one paying your fees and buying your clothes, do you think this is good? Don’t be like your daddy when you grow up. He is not a good example of how a man should be, and I don’t want you to grow up to be like him. Your wife should not be worked to death to feed a lazy man.”

The children will watch her leave for work and start asking you questions.

“Daddy, why are you not working? Why did mummy say you are lazy?” etc

God came to my help. He brought me out of the belly of the whale. Things turned around for me, and I began to provide for my family. Unfortunately, the resentment and pain of ten years had taken its toll. The same woman who accused me of living off her asked me who would be caring for the children now that I have a job that was taking me all over the world.

“You want me to sit at home and care for the children? I should leave my career and sit down so that you will be feeding me? Can you hear the rubbish you are spewing? You want me to be a slave who will sit at home and play wife? I was not built for that.
When you are ready, you will resign and take care of your children.”

That was how that marriage ended.

She said she would rather be a single mother than answer to a man who suddenly got a job and wanted to reassert himself as the head of the family.

True love is not transactional. The man and the woman who share true love fight daily to keep the light of their love shining through all seasons, and they work hand in hand to provide, support, care, stand by, and respect each other.

-GSW-

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This is mysterious…

This woman went to work on 1st of May this year & she mistakenly hit her leg on a chair.
The chair gave her a small bruise on her left leg. After some days, the bruise turned into a sore & then to her leg began to rotten in less than 3 weeks.

The leg was smelling with intense pain.
The hospital said the leg has degenerated to the point that nothing can be done anymore but to cut it off.
She couldn’t walk on her feet anymore — she needed to drag herself on her buttocks to move around.
The doctors had scheduled a date her left leg would be amputated.

Days before her leg would be cut off, she came into the Glory Dome this morning to attend the Sunday service, hoping that a miracle could happen.
During the worship as God’s servant @drpaulenenche was ministering in that name JESUS, the power of God came on her, she felt life come into the left leg & the pain disappeared.
She jumped out of the wheelchair she was given in church to help her move around & walked out to the front to share this powerful testimony, leaving the wheelchair behind.

The demonic arrow fired into that leg is returned back to wherever it came from by the power of God;
Amputation is canceled by the power of God.

This is the God I serve — He is the Almighty;
To Him alone be all the praise

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As Told To say

June Is The Month of Rulership

The Lord says I have given you access to seats of authority and dominion in the realm of governance, business, leadership, and entertainment
The Lord says I have given you dominion over money, every currency made by man, and the resources of value, both natural and man-made
The Lord says I have given you rulership over your territory, over your systems and structures, according to the time of life
The matters of the Strait will be resolved
The prophetic shall be the guiding light upon which many shall ride into fulfilment
Expect a lot of ascensions
Activation of angelic interactions shall be recorded globally
Many who had been waiting for many years to get their good news will get it this month
Expect fresh rains and fresh dews all over the church
Those who have been knocking for long shall experience the thrill of open doors
Autism, Speech delay, and other issues with speech and the voice box shall be cleared completely
It shall be a month of clarity and purposeful movement
The Throne Room shall be a dwelling place of delight for so many consciously

My faith is alive, active, and prevailing; circumstances align with my faith-filled confessions, and I rule, reign, and dominate my world by my faith. I’ve taken hold of the eternal realities of the Kingdom, walking in the full blessings of the Gospel of Christ! My life is for the glory of God. The power of God is at work in me; sickness doesn’t stand a chance and cannot dwell in me. The power of God is at work in my life, I can never be defeated by disease or infirmity, in Jesus Name. Amen.

And what shall I more say? For the time would fail me to tell of Gideon, and of Barak, and of Samson, and of Jephthae; of David also, and Samuel, and of the prophets: Who through faith subdued kingdoms, wrought righteousness, obtained promises, stopped the mouths of lions (Hebrews 11:32-33).
As Christians, we ought to apply our faith in God’s Word to deal with situations and challenges. In the faith’s hall of fame, the Bible talks about certain men and women who, through their faith, performed great feats for the Kingdom of God (Hebrews 11:32-33). These apostles of faith subdued kingdoms and did supernatural things in their time; they ruled their world!

The Bible talked about how they wrought righteousness, meaning when others conformed to error, they stood their ground for the truth and prevailed. They were like the children of Issachar, who the Bible says had an understanding of the times (1 Chronicles 12:32).
By your faith, you too can do great things in your world today. You can work righteousness and breathe life back into situations that were hitherto dead. Through your faith, you can revive that business that’s been grounded! You can perform so well in your business or career that the world will marvel at you. Faith is your currency; rule your world with it.

And the Word was made flesh, and dwelt among us, (and we beheld his glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father,) full of grace and truth (John 1:14).
God spoke the Word in recreating and restoring order to the earth after it became a dark, chaotic mass. In the midst of the darkness and chaos, He said, “Let there be light,” and light became (Genesis 1:3). The Word that gave light to the world became flesh, and dwelt amongst us in the person of Jesus.

The Lord Jesus walked the streets of Galilee, Capernaum, and Jerusalem, as the Word in human form. He lived as the Word and did everything He did with and through the Word. He healed the sick with the Word. He raised the dead with the Word, and cast out devils with the Word. He only had to speak words, and miracles ensued.
Recall how He raised Lazarus from the dead, a man who had been dead and buried for four days and who surely must have begun to decompose. When Jesus called out, “…Lazarus, come forth” (John 11:43), the man who had been dead came out alive! How awesome! Jesus lived and triumphed with words, showing us how to live in this world.

When He needed to feed the multitude, and all that was available was a little boy’s lunch (five loaves of bread and two fish), He spoke words (Matthew 14:17-21). He took the loaves of bread and fish, and invoked the power of multiplication into them, and they became more than enough to feed five thousand men, women, and children, not counted, with twelve baskets as leftovers.
He’s given us the same life wherein we triumph with words. He said in Mark 11:23, “You shall have what you say.” You can speak life to your job, finances, health, and family, and cause miracles to happen. When you speak over any situation, your words prevail. You’re a king, and where the word of a king is, there’s power (Ecclesiastes 8:4). Rule your world and dominate circumstances with words.

The Lord Jesus, while He walked this earth, lived such an exemplary life of faith. His confidence and apparent mastery over life’s circumstances is awe inspiring. He dazzled everyone with His extraordinary life of dominion. On a certain occasion, His disciples couldn’t help but ask out loud, in utter amazement: “…What manner of man is this! for he commandeth even the winds and water, and they obey him” (Luke 8:25).

Luke 8:23-24 records for us the occasion that prompted this question from the disciples: “But as they sailed, he fell asleep: and there came down a storm of wind on the lake; and they were filled with water, and were in jeopardy. And they came to him, and awoke him, saying, Master, master, we perish. Then he arose, and rebuked the wind and the raging of the water: and they ceased, and there was a calm.” Observe closely what the Master did: He rebuked the wind and the raging waves; that means He spoke words. He actually said, “…peace, be still” (Mark 4:39), and there was a great calm.

This gives us an insight into how He prevailed over circumstances. He ruled negative circumstances with faith-filled words. He spoke words, and blind eyes opened up, maimed limbs were restored, and deaf ears were unstopped. He spoke, and Lazarus, who was already dead and buried for four days, came back to life. He did all these to show that we can do the same; for as He is, so are we in this world (1 John 4:17).

No wonder He said in John 14:12, “Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that believeth on me, the works that I do shall he do also; and greater works than these shall he do….” Rise up today and proclaim victory over that unpleasant situation. Proclaim victory in your health, family, finances, business, academics, job, etc. Declare that greater is He that is in you, than he that is in the world. Rule and frame your world with faith-filled words, and watch your life move from one degree of glory to another.

He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls (Proverbs 25:28).
The Bible says in 2 Peter 1:5-6, “And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; and to virtue knowledge; And to knowledge temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness.” “Temperance” in the scripture above is the Greek word “egkrateia,” which means holding yourself in. It also means self-control; the ability to keep your cool and maintain your composure even when others try to ride roughshod over you.

Imagine you were driving, and a careless driver bumped your car. Instead of apologising, he even got abusive. What would you do? Would you pour invectives at him? Some may even alight from their car to engage in a brawl. No! That’s not for the Christian. Irrespective of the situation, restrain yourself from any form of altercation or bandy of words. This doesn’t mean you’re naïve; rather, you’re simply living out your true nature—the Christ-nature and kingly life in you.
As a Christian, you can’t afford to live carelessly; you must be able to hold yourself in from doing or saying things that could cast a dent in your Christian character. Consciously train yourself to exercise moderation in all things.

An athlete who’s gunning for a new record at the games, for example, can’t afford to live carelessly prior to the games, because it’ll affect his performance. There are things he’d have to endure to keep fit. He may not like some of those things, but because he has his eyes on the prize, he’d have to endure them. This is the picture the Word creates for us in admonishing that you add temperance to your faith.
It’s not okay to do whatever you feel like doing; always hold yourself from within. If you couldn’t do it, God wouldn’t have asked you to. Self-control is in your spirit, and to be activated when the need arises. Someone without self-control is like a city without walls, which the enemy can plunder at any time. Don’t be that way. Fortify yourself, your life, your spirit, against the adversary, and one of the ways to do that is to have rule over your spirit: self-control.

Thou art snared with the words of thy mouth, thou art taken with the words of thy mouth (Proverbs 6:2).
There is a spiritual language for the Christian. That’s why, as a child of God, you ought to practice speaking the Word only, and always, because the supernatural life is based on your tongue. Your tongue rules your life. The Apostle James likened the tongue to the rudder of a great ship, which the captain uses to direct the ship wherever he wants (James 3:4-5).

In Matthew 12:36-37, Jesus said, “But I say unto you, that every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the Day of Judgment. For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned.” Literally, this means a man will go to heaven or hell because of his tongue-work; what he said or didn’t say. The Apostle Paul’s words on salvation in Romans 10:8-10 buttress this: “…if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.”

Your life is the character of your words. If a man’s words are confusing, his life will be confusing as well. In the same vein, if your words are wholesome, your life will be perfect, excellent, and inspiring. Proverbs 15:4 says, “A wholesome tongue is a tree of life….” Watch your words—your confessions—they control your future. Proverbs 12:18 says, “…the tongue of the wise is health.” You can keep yourself in health, peace, and safety with your words.
Talk faith, success, and increase! 1 Peter 3:10 says, “For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile.” Keeping your lips from evil means keeping them from speaking fear, doubt, and unbelief. If you’ve found yourself in poverty, sickness, or anything that’s contrary to the good life that’s been given to you in Christ, it’s because you’re not using your mouth right. It’s time for you to change things.
The Bible says to let the Word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom and spiritual understanding (Colossians 3:16). Fill your heart with God’s Word and let it come out of your mouth. With the Word in your mouth, you can frame or recreate your world. Keep talking the Word. Keep charting your victorious course through the power of your words.

For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith (Mark 11:23).
Proverbs 6:2 says, “Thou art snared with the words of thy mouth, thou art taken with the words of thy mouth.” This scripture underscores the precarious situation many have found themselves in today. They’ve been taken captive by their negative confessions; bound by their words. However, if you’ve been taught right, you’ll think right, and the result of that is, you’ll talk right. Moreover, when you talk right, you’ll act right. When you talk right and act right, your life will turn out right.

Our confessions rule us. When it comes to words, there’s no such thing as “I didn’t quite mean what I said.” Jesus said you shall have what you say; so don’t say it if you didn’t mean it.
Consciously speak in consonance with the Word always—over your life, finances, business, health, etc. Proverbs 18:20 says, “A man’s belly shall be satisfied with the fruit of his mouth; and with the increase of his lips shall he be filled.” Here, the scripture isn’t talking about the size of your lips, but the words of wisdom pouring out of your mouth.
Proverbs 18:21 tells us, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.” This means you can speak life and reap a harvest of good things. Whatever you believe and voice out with your mouth is what’s going to happen in your life. This is a law of the spirit, and it works, whether or not you believe it.

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