I think "Forgive and forget" logic is bullshit and is used to silence victims. If it worked for you, that's good, and I'm happy for you. Just don't ever say that shit to me.
I think people underestimate how tired you can be from just having too much on your mind! Not even physically tired! Just tired of remembering things, handling things, thinking ahead, fixing stuff, making decisions, being needed, tryna stay afloat etc. That's just a lot for real.