Possible reasons why men in general don't open up to their babes/anyone sef:
1) When they see the person they are about to open up to, can't solve their issue.
2) When they sense that opening up to someone, might make them get abandoned. Some men will fear that if they open up, those people will abandon them after hearing their plight.
3) They fear reduced masculinity. Your babe didn't open up to you about his job, because he's feeling less of a man. He doesn't want the "pity" that will come from you. It can make him feel more miserable.
4) Men that are angry with themselves. That haven't forgiven themselves yet for what they did, might find it hard to open up to other people/their partners
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Your boyfriend falls in the number 1, 2 and 3 categories.
He might see you as someone that didn't solve his issues in the few times he opened up to you, probably during talking stage, but just provide emotional support or affirmation to him
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He might also fear that if he opens up to you, he will feel vulnerable. And you can use that vulnerability against him. Or worst, leave the relationship.
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What can you do?
Good questionnnn.
You are a good lady.
And I will tell you what you can do.
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Show him.
Don't tell him.
There's a difference between
"Babe, go apply for one vacancy I saw at the supermarket"
And
"Babe, I just created a resume for you and a linkedln account as well. I've told someone to help me set up your account, in case job offers in your local environment, comes up"
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You see?
That's the difference between telling and showing on relationships.
When you do this more, gradually, your babe loosens his shell and comes out.
Just show him that you are worth opening up to.
Take the initiative.
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Our thoughts are with your babe. We all men and women here who know how hard it is to lose a job.
Please continue standing by your babe's side.
If you need anything, you can send another anonymous. Hopefully Sir Dickson sees it.
Take care of him sis.
Take care of our brother โฅ๏ธ
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