It took me a while, but I finally realized what triggers my toxicity… it’s disrespect. I can be chill, fun, easy to get along with ... I can vibe with anybody. But the second I feel disrespected, everything in me shifts. My peace goes out the window, my patience disappears, and that soft version of me turns sharp real quick. I’m self-aware enough to know I’m a good woman. I’m kind, I’m genuine, I’m understanding, and I always try to lead with love. But that’s exactly why disrespect hits so deep ... because I know how much grace I give before I ever lose it. When I snap, it’s never random, it’s a reaction. What you put in is what you get out of me. Still, I’m learning. Learning not to let people pull me out of character. Learning that not everyone deserves a response. Learning that peace is better than proving a point. Because growth isn’t about never being triggered… it’s about recognizing what triggers you and protecting yourself before you get there. Know your triggers. Guard your peace. Stay away from the people, places, and situations that force you to become someone you’ve worked too hard to outgrow.
Accountability is so important to me. Nobody’s perfect, but don’t try to flip the script and make my reaction the issue when your actions lit the match.
A girl on tik tok just said "I would rather adjust my life to your absence, than adjust my boundaries to accommodate your disrespect" and I think that a lot of people need to take that and really engrave it into their soul.
I've watched narcissists: Push someone to the edge mentally, wait for them to finally snap, then use that breakdown as proof they were always unstable. They create the crisis then blame the victim for reacting. It’s pretty sick out here . Yall be careful