@official_QV If you beat a woman, wahala. If you keep quiet after talking and talking and no expected changes then decide to bottle up , wahala. If you pretend to be fine, wahala. Man just come suffer for this world
The biggest mistake many women make about communication is this:
They will speak to their friends for hours about the problems in their relationship, yet never sit down and speak honestly with the very man they are dating or married to.
Her friends know every detail. The group chat knows every argument. The best friend knows how angry, hurt, or frustrated she is.
But the man involved is left guessing.
You cannot fix a relationship by avoiding the main person inside it.
Many relationships slowly die because of unspoken issues. One partner is silently building anger while acting normal on the surface.
Instead of direct conversations, there are indirect comments, cold attitudes, silence, mood swings, and emotional distance.
Sometimes the man genuinely does not even know what the real issue is because nobody clearly told him.
Friends can comfort you, yes. Friends can advise you, yes.
But friends cannot communicate for you.
A healthy relationship needs uncomfortable conversations. It needs honesty. It needs maturity. It needs both people to learn how to express pain without turning outsiders into full time relationship referees.
Talk to your partner. Explain what hurts you. Explain what is missing. Explain what you need.
Many problems would have been solved earlier if people spent half the energy communicating with their partner instead of discussing the relationship everywhere else.
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There is a place for forgiveness in marriage
There is also a place for genuine repentance
We shouldn't be all daggers drawn over the issue of infidelity
Cheating spouses, be it husband or wife, do not always cheat for malicious reasons
I admit that no excuse under heaven is good enough, but our love should be stronger than death
I know husbands who forgave their wives' indiscretion, and both of them are still together and happy till tomorrow
I also know several wives who forgave their husbands for their indiscretions regarding sexual relationships with another woman
Every case cannot lead to the same conclusion of divorce or separation. Reconciliation, healing, and restitution are also bona fide options for many
The man knows his wife, and the wife knows her husband.
In the uniqueness of their knowledge of each other and the depth of the love they share, if there is room for forgiveness, that option should also be explored.
@victorchrisO@NAIJATRUCKVOICE@AsakyGRN I have not read where anybody said it is a sin. The question is, is a Pastor taking a tattoo expedient in our society? I mean in Nigeria where he did it and Pastors a Church. In other ones, it could be societally permissible for a Pastor.
@innehjoseph@NAIJATRUCKVOICE@AsakyGRN Did you just said “subjective”? That a man did what was not expedient in a society where he did it is what you call subjective?