A lot of your boyfriends are going through things you don’t even notice because you’re too focused on your own happiness and what he’s supposed to do for you.
I finally understand what Machiavelli meant when he said, "Never play fair in a game where others cheat." It doesn't mean become evil. It means stop being naive. Stop bringing honesty to people who study manipulation, stop giving access to people who weaponize closeness, and stop expecting clean hands from people who already showed you they'll throw dirt.
Sometimes wisdom is not revenge.
Sometimes wisdom is learning the rules of the room before the room uses your goodness against you.
God, sharpen my discernment without hardening my heart. Help me recognize good fruit, notice unhealthy patterns, establish wise boundaries, and remain loving without becoming naive.
dissapearing on your partner after conflict when they need clarity or closeness is not giving yourself space. it is emotional abuse. the anxiety and abandonment wounds it creates are very real.