gf helping me be more assertive so she has me practice saying no and she asks "can I kiss you" and i stutter but I get out the word no but then she leans in and kisses me anyway and says "there's bad people in the world sweetie. like me" as she kisses me again and I blush >>>
I once sat with a girl who told me she had been raped.
She had gone to spend the night at her boyfriend’s house, & he spiked her drink.
She woke up to signs of sexual assault — confused, scared, & hurt.
I told her we could go together to make a police report.
I sat beside her as the officer said things like:
‘You shouldn’t have gone over there.’
‘You shouldn’t have stayed the night.’
‘You shouldn’t have accepted a drink.’
‘You shouldn’t have been drinking alcohol at all.’
Every word he said was about what she did wrong — not about what was done to her.
I corrected him. I told him that none of the choices she made were her fault.
None of this was her fault.
He was the one who drugged and assaulted her. It’s not ok to say it’s her fault. He was shocked and mumbled well “no”
Instead of taking her report with professionalism, without judgment, without bias — he made her feel blamed.
She left without filing charges.
This is how rape culture persists
masters, job, employment, protein intake, 10k steps, layoff, career, salary, savings, investments, taxes, networking, linkedin, meal prep, skincare, boyfriend, marriage, kids SHUT THE FUCK UP GIVE ME A BREAK
to the men who say, “I’m too scared to even touch a woman in this Me Too era because of the possibility of an allegation.”
GOOD. Don’t touch us. Don’t touch us unless we ask. Live by that. Act by that. We would greatly appreciate it.