Differently Dave

Football. World cinema. Latin America. Teetotal. ☕ CMT Sufferer. "Like power turns to mold, like a junkie going cold, I need the fix of a little tenderness."

[Differently Dave @GoldenVision90]

Just had to take a urine sample to my GP and at reception they asked me “does the doctor know about this already”. No, no. I just brought a cup of my wee as a present. Please don’t spoil the surprise.

[Differently Dave @GoldenVision90]

@jonathangard Thanks mate. Nice to be Bak (if only very briefly). Hope all’s well with you. x

[Differently Dave @GoldenVision90]

Hey friends. Just letting you know that I’m alright. For various reasons I’m still taking a break from the socials, while I try & sort out other things in my life, but I’m getting by and doing alright. Much love and if you want to chat, drop me a DM and I’ll send you my number. x

[Differently Dave @GoldenVision90]

@SelwynGreen2 Hope you’re keeping well, Mr. G!

[Differently Dave @GoldenVision90]

Will properly DM everyone who's replied for a chat when I'm back and hopefully enjoying the improved mental health I had in the earlier part of this year, again. You're all great and I'm sending you all a hug/mug of Bovril/pinch on the bum/delete as applicable. x

[Differently Dave @GoldenVision90]

Had a pretty horrible mental health week, though I did get to tick off Amsterdamsche FC’s wonderfully-situated Sportpark Goed Genoeg this afternoon.

On that note, I’m going to take a break from the socials as I’ve just felt overwhelmed. See you all in August. Much love. x 🤗

[Differently Dave @GoldenVision90]

@ChipsyYCFC Hugs right back atcha and a picture of Jon Parkin to boot.

[Differently Dave @GoldenVision90]

@b1ackbird333 I’m glad you can relate but sorry that it feels that way for you too, Wendy!

[Differently Dave @GoldenVision90]

There’s something that’s been on my mind a lot, so please allow me a serious mini-thread. I think the way that we’re talking to and about people is contributing to a massive mental health epidemic and it’s something I’m realising had had a huge effect on me.

[Differently Dave @GoldenVision90]

@Iain_6 Oh interesting! Who played? I’ve developed a vague soft spot for Tampines Rovers because I like the badge.

[Differently Dave @GoldenVision90]

Is there a more absolute goalfest top-flight league in the world than the Singapore Premier League? Look at those absolutely bonkers scorelines, including last season’s champions losing 7-1.

[Differently Dave @GoldenVision90]

@ppe2007a @eshelm Hmm. I think I do say the nice things out loud, but that's definitely the case with some people. You can tell they have good hearts, even if they're not vocal about it.

[Differently Dave @GoldenVision90]

Prime example of what I was saying earlier. Fans trying to just watch their team, and someone on Twitter explaining how they're ruining the event because they're not athletic or attractive enough. This constant message that none of us are good enough, that we ought to be ashamed.

[Robyn Vinter [email protected] @RobynVinter]

The whiplash when you're celebrating the lovely talented nice footballers and then it cuts to the stands and you remember what people in England actually look like. Brings you back down to earth with a bump

[Differently Dave @GoldenVision90]

@becksie1977 Also that. I essentially feel that trying to improve your health or get a new hobby or find a better job or whatever are all beneficial things, but the whole narrative often tips over into telling people that what they've achieved is somehow insufficient.

[Differently Dave @GoldenVision90]

I know I'm really stuck on this issue right now, but it's really hit me hard recently realising how damaging the constant drip-drip of this is. Everyone's constantly told they're too ugly, or not smart enough, or defective in some way or another - and I'm so fucking tired of it.

[Differently Dave @GoldenVision90]

@becksie1977 100% agree. On that note, I need a breather from thinking about serious stuff, so here's a picture of Christian Gross and enjoy your Friday night! 😊

[Differently Dave @GoldenVision90]

@eshelm I hope so too, Enid. But regardless of the motivation, it needs to stop.

[Differently Dave @GoldenVision90]

I don't want to cause a pile-on and I don't expect to, because that's not what the lovely people who follow me are like. But I do want folk - especially those with the reach of Guardian journos - to realise that saying things like this has consequences for people's mental health.

[Differently Dave @GoldenVision90]

@becksie1977 It really is. I'm short, a bit overweight and have a muscle-wasting disability. I don't think there's much chance of my pro football career taking off (especially as I'm 33 😄) but I - or anyone else - should be allowed to feel fine about whatever our physical attributes are.

[Differently Dave @GoldenVision90]

@eshelm It's awful, but often I actually don't think the people Tweeting this stuff out are horrible people. They're just affected by this obsession with engagement, with saying something that people will respond to, with trying to have some contrarian or edgy opinion about everything.

[Differently Dave @GoldenVision90]

Has there ever been a better endorsement for a town than Rod Stewart enjoying their bacon butties?

[Differently Dave @GoldenVision90]

@kattso_mathias Thanks mate. If I ever have my own microstate and get to appoint a Swedish Ambassador, you're first on the list above Jesper Blomqvist!