BookObsessedGoth

bisexual geek, Sci-fi and fantasy, D&D, mythology, baking, disabled, Gothy, cat lover, and of course, many, many books. She/her

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If any of my twitter friends want a backup place to find me, I just made a tumblr account as Book-Obsessed-Goth

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@babney @Baileymoon15 Isn't "mountain dew" also an old euphemism for moonshine? Or a phrase that's similar to mountain dew?

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@LizzieCornish12 @Nessnixi @JayJay33737432 @JournalistJill - in order to "protect their innocence", who were then sexually abused, and didn't tell anyone because they didn't know how to talk about it, or were scared they'd get in trouble, or they didn't understand what was happening. Predators use people's ignorance against them.

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@LizzieCornish12 @Nessnixi @JayJay33737432 @JournalistJill It's not. It happened to me. My mother, may she burn in Hell, deliberately kept me ignorant for as long as she could, to make it easier for her to put me into very bad situations for her own sick reasons. I know multiple women who weren't given sex ed or knowledge of consent -

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@3ffingawesome @hashjenni I'm glad you have a good relationship. But here's the thing-
good, healthy, loving relationships can be hard to come by. It reminds me of a saying about trying to find a therapist: A good therapist can be life changing, but a bad therapist can be worse than no therapist at all.

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@Esichy @Hazel_qs I was just like

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I realized years later it's because she had a long history of drug use and also cheated on my dad at least one that I know of.

Still not sure how she thought my partner and I getting this friend a present TOGETHER translated to me cheating, tho

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@Esichy @Hazel_qs Partners friend who had kept my partner from being homeless after a bad breakup in a previous relationship.

My mother immediately asked if the friend is attractive.

I was confused and said, "Uhhhh I guess?"

She replied, "You shouldn't cheat on your partner, he's a good man."

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@SuperMarioBran1 @xevekiah Honestly, if you've never been raped, you have no idea what you'd do, because you haven't experienced that trauma. You can't know how you'd react unless or until you are forced to actually live through it.

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@nunya319804981 @xevekiah - that day over the next decade. I was well into my thirties before I recovered any memories of the assault itself.

I still don't know what all was done to me.

I still can't remember his name or face. It's just... blank.

I still had to suffer through the PTSD, though.

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@nunya319804981 @xevekiah -down his street looking for my dog, and being back at the end of the street with a group of other kids asking where I'd gone, and I couldn't answer them. And realizing it was far later in the day than I had thought it was. I slowly recovered bits and pieces of my memories of-

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@larsinthewoods @xevekiah -trying to protect other potential victims by coming forward.

You argument is disingenuous and misogynistic. Why do you think you have the right to decide how people are allowed to speak about their own experiences and trauma?

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@larsinthewoods @xevekiah Survivors don't "decide they felt it was rape". They process their trauma enough that to be able to speak about it in public. They find the strength to tell the world the truth. They heal enough to stop blaming themselves for someone else's decision to hurt them, and start-

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@OlukayodeGift @RomanticR81537 @DrToniSaidit Just because I saw your response- do you know what coercion is, out outside of violence or blatant threats of violence?

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@RomanticR81537 @OlukayodeGift @DrToniSaidit That's actually how my mother got pregnant with me.

Sabotaging contraception is also known as "reproductive abuse", if it results in pregnancy. Abusive partners will often use this tactic to make their victims stay, to keep them from being able to find work, to isolate them...

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@RomanticR81537 @OlukayodeGift @DrToniSaidit And the reverse can happen, too: a man doesn't want to have more kids right now, so his consent hinges on her taking her birth control, but she wants another baby so she lies and says she's taking it every day, but she's stopped taking it. Then she gets pregnant.

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@Qwerty51623710 @tastefullysaucy - that the blood transfusion made them "evil" and the parents were therefore justified in abusing them. They had to endure it until they finally escaped in their 20s.

I think they'd have been abusive anyway, but they saw the blood transfusion giving them a permission base.

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@Qwerty51623710 @tastefullysaucy I had a friend whose parents were JW, and they needed a blood transfusion as a baby. Parents said no, but this was in the UK, so the hospital gave the transfusion anyway because you legally can't deny life- saving care in the UK.

The parents were super abusive to them, saying-

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@Stoney420p @ma1ybe Even if this specific video is fake, there are absolutely men like that out there.

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@Stoney420p @ma1ybe - that I had PTSD (from that rape) and therefore I was "too traumatized and emotional" to make my own decisions, so I should "let him take care of me" (i.e. be in a relationship with him and let him make my decisions for me so he could "fix me")