High empathy sucks cause when you understand why people are the way they are you realize most people aren't truly evil they're just dumb and incapable of viewing the world outside of their own experiences which makes it hard to truly hate them even if they are ugly inside.
The most ruthless truth you need to face today is that you are rapidly aging out of the window where people will tolerate your lack of emotional intelligence just because you're young, attractive, or "figuring it out." In your early twenties, people will coddle your poor communication, your silent treatments, and your habit of pulling away when things get hard. They excuse it as you being "mysterious" or just going through a phase.
But the older you get, that exact same behavior stops being quirky and starts making you a massive liability. High-value people, whether that’s romantic partners, good friends, or mentors, do not have the time or the desire to decipher your moods, chase you when you ghost, or teach you basic accountability. They won't fight with you or try to "fix" you; they will just quietly distance themselves. You aren't "outgrowing" everyone; people are just no longer willing to grade your immaturity on a curve.
“Hey” isn’t a bad way to start a convo - This stems down to the fact that hookup culture, sexting, link ups etc has become so normalised for years especially with how easily accessible it is on socials that people don’t know how to properly date or let their guard down for a date