all my life living in New York, I believed in never gatekeeping, always sharing the good spots. But now I am at 180° away from that belief. Anything even mildly good about the city, if shared, gets ruined and overrun instantly. and the people overrunning it are pure selfish narcissists with no regard for anyone else, none of the city's spirit of situating yourself among others. Just selfish little suburban brats everywhere taking incredibly stupid photos. It really does have to stop somehow.
Imagine if every person you've gone on at least one date with watched your social media accounts for years, despite not contacting you or reconnecting in person. How does that feel?
It’s one thing to stay in touch and another to feel consumed. There's an expectation we remain infinitely open to connections and reconnections. I don't think that's fair. Availability isn't guaranteed in either direction. If you haven't been consistent, the window may not be open when you decide to use it. Reaching out to pencil in a date isn’t the same as reaching out to reminisce or to ask questions already answered on my site.
My best clients communicate and have a consistent presence (in-person or otherwise), even if that’s only a few times a year. That's as simple as a happy birthday or happy holidays. A gift card here and there. If you can check our social media accounts frequently, you are already managing the relationship. Make it visible by showing tangible appreciation.
kim kardashian failing the bar exam so many times that she gives up on being a lawyer is making me realize the american bar association might just be one of like three remaining institutions in the us that won't just roll over and give the exorbitantly wealthy whatever they want