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Nick the Grey - Rogue Professor - Moustache - Rhodesian by birth - Staying strong, Serving the King 💪🏻 🇦🇺

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I took on the longhouse in our church... and now I'm on the outside.

When confronting the contentious women and soft men of the church with clear biblical teaching, the pusillanimous leaders backstabbed me and stood with them.

I had served-up all the evidence for them on a silver platter, with extra garnishing, and they still couldn't see it. Things are far worse than we imagine!

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@Eric_Conn Yes!
I tried to navigate this, thinking my influence was more powerful than the toxic feminist institutions. I was wrong and lost a daughter.
Learn from this advice - protect your daughters!

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@Eric_Conn @PsalmWarfare The tentacles of the feminist cancer are deeper and more insidious than anyone seems to understand.
And like a dysfunctional immune system, the church no longer has the ability to perceive it!

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@RettCopple As a PhD working among PhDs, I can affirm PhDs have a remarkably stupefying effect.

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@jchasedavis It’s actually not that hard to get punished these days. Bit of straight Bible talking gets you into a whole lotta trouble real quick!

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Melbourne City centre… I imagine the Gospel thundered here once. The manse is a pub. The school house a yoga centre.

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@DavidEdgington Breaks me that the church is still so stubbornly feminist. They are foolishly (and wickedly) conserving the wrong things!

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@senatorbabet Stay Strong, Serve the King 💪🏻

[Grey Hair Reformer @GreyReformer]

@ZacharyGarris So simple, yet tragically so rare.

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@senatorbabet https://t.co/hDwLXf6Soj

[Dr. Clown, PhD @DrClownPhD]

Troy, but instead of Brad Pitt, it’s Elliot Page.

[Grey Hair Reformer @GreyReformer]

Judge a civilisation by its cathedrals and laws, not by the grievances of those who fail to replicate them.

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Some Shakespearean support of patriarchy…

[The Base @thebasecreates]

‘The greatest defence of Christian monogamy ever written.’

Project 39 continues with Katherine from The Taming of the Shrew - Act 5, Scene 2.

The head-strong and quick-witted Katherine has finally been ‘tamed’ and urges her friend to get married too.

This is a controversial speech. As far back as George Bernard Shaw, critics have found it ‘problematic’. Katherine - as they see it - betrays herself and her autonomy by speaking in favour of marriage and supporting the status quo. Modern productions tend to ironise the speech, suggesting that Katherine is speaking under coercion. But Germaine Greer called the speech ‘the greatest defence of Christian monogamy ever written.’ As she and other critics see it, Katherine has met her match and is submissive because in Petrochio she has met someone who is ‘man enough to know what he wants and how to get it.’

Katherine is played by Lily Hardy

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@Brian_Sauve The word “concerned” is usually a giveaway.

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@adonispara @theoldworldshow Dad talks about his 6 weeks in - 6 weeks out, which he did for two years. Had two under 5 yo at home.

Remember mum crying whenever he was away.

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@resisfertile @MatthewPFirth Preach brother!

[Grey Hair Reformer @GreyReformer]

I'm trade-marking a new term...
MVP Christianity - "Minimal Viable Product" Christianity.

The type of christianity that requires the bare minimum from its adherents. Just enough mental assent to be 'viably' christian. Nothing more. No sacrifice, no trials, no perseverance, no change, no sanctification, no obedience - easy as.

[Grey Hair Reformer @GreyReformer]

@DavidEdgington @Eli_StayFocused We need to remember... that which is biblical and which we want will not be given, it must be taken.

[benkreis @benkreis]

@GreyReformer What's crazy is that in my situation the church was highly orthodox, historically grounded, even puritanical in theological matters. But, howdy wow, do the women have pull!

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@InductivReason @DavidEdgington @New_Christendom Deaconesses and shepherdesses of both sexes indeed!

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I just finished @DavidEdgington's White Knights and Reviling Wives. A brief review I wrote for a lads group I run....

Background
I was drawn to this book not because I have a reviling wife, but because its themes struck a chord with a difficult experience in my previous church. I first heard David discuss the book on a podcast, and the parallels between his description of "reviling wives" (RW) and "pastor White Knights" (WK) and my own experience were startling. At that time, I was facing attacks from reviling female church members who were actively shielded by "pastor/elder WK’s." I needed to reach out to David for a sanity check.

To summarise the situation: I was leading a successful young adults’ group, aiming to leverage my 20-plus years of university experience to stimulate debate on applied theology. It was an ambitious project, and attendance grew quickly. However, after a few weeks, rumblings began among a group of older single women and their "male" fans. I provided outlines to the elders prior to every session to ensure total transparency. Once we reached the topics of biblical masculinity and femininity, things turned fiery. The resistance I faced was fierce, foul, and frankly unhinged. There was no reasoning and no biblical argumentation—just loud emotion-laden language. By our eighth meeting, I was forced to suspend the group, and I reported the disruptive women to the elders, requesting a formal determination. When a meeting with the elders was finally convened, I realised within minutes that these men were too pusillanimous to stand against these women, so I stepped away. These women went on the offensive and accused me of heresy and other errors without citing a single verse or recording a single specific incident, despite my repeated requests. The entire affair was handled in an effeminate manner, utterly lacking in due process. It was exactly like the RW and WK dynamic the book describes.

I reached out to David, who was incredibly helpful and reaffirmed my position. It is from this perspective, and with admitted bias, that I offer my review of his book.

Brief Review
White Knights and Reviling Wives serves as a follow-up to Edgington’s The Abusive Wife. He is a rare voice highlighting the plight of men in the church. Drawing on his experience counselling over 500 failing marriages, he identifies a massive imbalance in how blame is assigned during a breakdown. Feminism has conditioned our society, churches, and pastors to assume that women are effectively sinless, and men are always at fault. He argues that most marriage failures are actually due to RWs who refuse to live biblically or submit to their husbands, yet pastors almost invariably side with the women, disregarding the facts. His book is filled with raw and heart-breaking case studies.

I read the book to better understand the state of marital counselling, but because of my own history, I mentally swapped "reviling wife" for "reviling women" as I read. The conceptual change didn't weaken the message; the parallels remained strikingly accurate.

There are countless sections I could cite, but a few will make the point. Edgington starts by establishing that patriarchy is biblical, and that submission is not a "dirty word," noting that the resistance to it is often demonic. He opens the book with, “The Bible not only assumes patriarchy; it teaches it. Because we live in such a perverted and twisted day, this truth has become controversial and, therefore, exponentially more important.” (pg13). I particularly recommend the sub-section titled ‘Submission – A key trait to look for in a potential wife.’ It provides sound advice on red flags. Interestingly, Edgington estimates that 50% of the RW he encounters are "trad" home schoolers, and he warns men to look for the core traits of submissiveness even if a woman talks a big game about the "trad" lifestyle.

The second section exposes the failures of pastors and counsellors who have succumbed to Critical Gender Theory. The author’s conclusion to Chapter 4 captures his frustration: “If it sounds like I am upset about the pastorate today, it is because I am. You can even say that I am angry. I am angered because if pastors had a backbone, stood up to feminists in their church and society, and actually preached and discipled and counselled people with the Scriptures, we could eliminate this problem within a generation. But its getting worse, not better. The church is in shambles due to pastors’ poor leadership and poor example” (pg 98). I couldn't agree more!

Section three analyses the fallout of the feminisation of the church. The chapter on 'Twisting terms, weaponising words' is particularly enlightening, offering a lexicon of common manipulative tactics that I wasn't fully familiar with. You will be much better equipped to spot these patterns after reading it.

The final section is a clarion call for men to show boldness and courage in their homes and churches. Edgington provides actionable steps for husbands of RW’s, as well as for pastors attempting to counsel them. The book closes with a look at the beauty of marriage through the Song of Songs.

This is a "must read" for men of all ages. It serves as a necessary caution against marrying a woman with these tendencies and provides vital advice to those already in such a marriage. More importantly, it gives every man a lens to discern the corrosive effects of feminism in our churches, finally equipping us to stand and fight.

Stay Strong, Serve the King 💪🏼

[Grey Hair Reformer @GreyReformer]

@DavidEdgington The same crowd that attacked me about my patriarchy in the church also attacked me when I advised them not to engage with any Alberry material they were promoting.

Funny that...