Most women do not cry over the man. They are crying over themselves, the effort they put in, the hope they had, the delusion they believed, and the reminder that love has not rewarded them.
Matching your freak is beautiful and all but what you really need is a person who's infatuated with your freak. Down bad for your freak. Deeply intrigued by your freak. Eager to see more of your freak. Supportive of your freak. Gets bricked up witnessing your freak, even.