Your relationship with yourself cannot be built entirely around improvement. At some point, you have to become someone you are allowed to enjoy being. You get to be proud of who you are. Present tense.
Another thing, this brother studied women, he knew how gullible women are when it comes to religion and pastors. He then put on an act coupled with promises for jobs and good care. He knew where to hunt which is Matsapha/Mahhala. He knows what he was doing. Abakubulale lentfo.
ADHD people screenshotting and bookmarking everything because they're afraid of losing ideas, only to never look at them again because the archive is now its own overwhelming problem.