Congrats to Doug Wilson and his ilk for making me despise something more than I despise politics, therefore ensuring I will continue to vote for the rest of my life.
“Every time we affirm how special our children are to us for being themselves, we’re helping them grow into adults who rejoice in the diversity of the world’s people.”
@MaryDeMuth I agree wholeheartedly with this. I burnt out badly 3 years ago trying to do all the social media stuff I was told to do.
Today I’m rarely on social media. I’m still trying to figure out HOW to market my work without being on social media, but I have to, for my own health
Now look…I know lots of big families. Some are dysfunctional. Some are functional. Probably about the same ratio as “normal” sized families.
But y’all gotta stop this nonsense about big families. Just let people be and have as many kids or as few kids as they want w/o comment.
You know what really bothers me is when I see people hating on large families and claiming that the kids can’t possibly be raised well.
Y’all, just because your only reference for a large family is the Duggars doesn’t mean you know anything.
They were smart with their money so their kids got a good education, w/ outside co-ops and activities, and yes, they even got to go on family vacations every few years.
In short, they’re like any other functional family in America.
@DuckieLouise Whereas someone who can quote the verse, AND takes into account historical/passage context, and can make an actual argument that addresses what someone said rather than just shutting them down…is actually doing the work. They’re the folks to listen to.
@DuckieLouise In my experience, having been in both incredibly toxic and incredibly amazing faith communities in my life…
Anyone who says “plain Word of God” but can’t quote the verse or give an argument past “the Bible says so!” is just using Scripture to veneer their opinion
The fun part of after-Christmas festivities: punching out all the bits & bobs for new board games. I’ve promised Eldest Son we would play through a couple of these this afternoon so he can teach his friends at our church NYE game night tonight
@DuckieLouise Yup, absolutely meant authoritarian. Oops. That’s what I get for trying to comment on things before I’ve fully woken up for the day (Aka before noon lol)
@WinsomeWonder@DuckieLouise Besides this, teaching gentleness first is always appropriate. Violence is a last resort.
The women I’ve heard in my personal circles worried over “taking the wildness out” are generally raising the kids who are bullying my kids, so I’m less concerned about that tbh
@WinsomeWonder@DuckieLouise Kids who are 2 don’t have the logical ability to figure out when it’s appropriate to hit & when it isn’t.
My kids have had issues with bullying & I’ve taught them when it’s appropriate to hit back & when it isn’t. But they’re 7 & 10. Their logic centers are mature enough for it
@DuckieLouise Yet another step towards me wondering if I actually have ADHD. My husband for years has tried to suggest I just “do the important stuff” and try rewards, and I TRY, but it’s like my brain is a separate thing going “lol nope”. I can’t force myself into any form of self-discipline
@DuckieLouise I thank God (sincerely) that my MIL insisted her boys learn to clean, cook, and take care of kids as well as her girls did, and that my husband is just as good as I am at upkeeping our house. (better, in some ways.)
@DuckieLouise The divorces are happening because women are realizing they married man-babies who refuse to lift a finger unless she constantly nags at them. Nagging isn't fun for anyone--not the person doing it, not the person having it thrown at them.