A lot of you never held any leadership role prior to marriage. Not your offices, not in associations you belong to, not even headboy of your primary school, so marriage is the one place you finally get to be the local champion leader you’ve been having wet dreams about.
Pathetic
Btw in your 20’s and 30’s you’ll start rediscovering the niche interests and hobbies you had as a kid. It’s very important you revisit them. Your younger self was actually on to something