my mom said something so powerful today on grieving relationships. she was like sometimes we're really only sad bcz we lowered our standards and it still didn't work out. this is why you always stick to your standards. if anything mourn the person you were that allowed it
start checking yourself. start correcting yourself when you're being unnecessarily negative. start minding your business when you realize you're policing someone's choices that don't have anything to do with you. hold yourself accountable for goals you keep procrastinating on.