A woman working 40+ hrs a week, paying for her own hair, nails, rent, car, food, gas, handling everything by herself, is not going to be the soft, feminine woman you expect her to be. And no, she can't bring you peace when she's in survival mode.
I have to marry somebody who takes holidays seriously. A family person. Birthdays, graduations, anniversaries… everything must all be celebrated fully in my household.