Dear Parents,
Let me share a secret with you. I pray it benefits you.
After my post on the anatomical psychology of a child yesterday, I received some questions about how to help children who struggle to focus on their studies and what parents can do to help them. If your child or your children is struggling academically, or lose focus easily, then this post is for you.
What you are likely seeing is a child who starts a task but wanders off. You might see them staring at a book for an hour without remembering a single line. It is easy to think they are being lazy, but what you ought to see is a mind where the internal powers are not connected.
The Almighty God in the Quran mentions the Nasiyah in Surah Al-Alaq (96:15) as the place of decision and control. Science has shown this to be the prefrontal cortex, the part behind the forehead.
In Kitab al-Shifa, Ibn Sina identified a power box called Al-Quwwah al-Mutakhayyilah (the Composative Imagination). This power is the pilot of the brain. Its job is to take information and turn it into focused thought. When focus is gone, the bridge is broken.
To help them overcome this problem, you can use a mental drill called Reverse Narrating (RN). Reverse Narrating is a modern concept, but, it has root in our religion too.
The principle behind RN is deeply anchored in the works of Abu Zayd al-Balkhi. He is considered the father of Islamic psychology. In his book Masalih al-Abdan wa al-Anfus (Sustenance of the Soul), he talked about Riyadat al-Nafs (disciplining the mind). He taught that the mind needs specific "mental rehearsals" to regain control over wandering thoughts.
This mental rehearsals through reverse narrating is what you should adopt going forward because it forces the brain to reorganize information in a way that is not natural.
Here is how you can do it:
1.Ask your child what they are doing right this moment (when you call them).
2.Ask them what they did ten minutes before that.
3.Keep asking what happened before each step, moving backward through the day.
4.Continue until they reach the moment they woke up in the morning.
Do you know what you have done? You have just forced the Mutakhayyilah of your child to work in overdrive to pull data from the memory and flip it.
What this does is that It strengthens the pilot seat in their forehead. If you do this for a few minutes every evening, you would be building the mental glue your child needs to stay on a task. This is how struggling children improve their mental power and succeed in their studies. GIVE IT A TRY.
Allah knows best.
She never had the chance to attend primary school.
She faces sickle cell with courage.
And today, we are celebrating her Master’s graduation with Distinction.
People often tell me I inspire them.
But she inspires me.
Her journey reminds me that progress doesn't always look loud.
Sometimes it looks like showing up on hard days.
Sometimes it looks like choosing hope, again and again.
I am deeply proud of her.
May her story encourage anyone walking a difficult path.
Your dreams are still valid
A huge thank you to all her classmates at University of Ilorin who supported her all through and best friend Ayomide for standing with her.
We are grateful.
#gratitude
She never had the chance to attend primary school.
She faces sickle cell with courage.
And today, we are celebrating her Master’s graduation with Distinction.
People often tell me I inspire them.
But she inspires me.
Her journey reminds me that progress doesn't always look loud.
Sometimes it looks like showing up on hard days.
Sometimes it looks like choosing hope, again and again.
I am deeply proud of her.
May her story encourage anyone walking a difficult path.
Your dreams are still valid
A huge thank you to all her classmates at University of Ilorin who supported her all through and best friend Ayomide for standing with her.
We are grateful.
#gratitude
Saudi Arabia has banned photography and videography in Masjid al-Haram and Masjid an-Nabawi.
Alhamdulillah, now people can focus more on their acts of worship rather than live-streaming.
May Allah grant us all sincerity.
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Hassan* (55) and Aisha* (48) have been married for 23 years.
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On this week’s LoveLife, they share how their union is being tested by Aisha’s cancer diagnosis — and why she’s determined to find him a wife to care for their family if she doesn’t make it.
*A excerpt from the Qowāninul Fiqhiyyah of Dr Sharāfdēn Gbadebo Rāji حفظه الله*
*باب الحيض، والنفاس، والطهر، والاستحاض*
_Under the Chapter of Menstruation, Postpartum bleeding, Al-Istihādoh, At-Tuhur(cleaningness)_
*-There are four types of blood that a woman happen to see*
-Hayd: is a terminology for the onset of blood that only occurs in a female who has reached puberty, it comes from the womb and it's dark in colour and has an awkward smell
-Nifās: This is a postpartum bleeding that occurs as result of birthing a new one
-Istihādoh : this is a type of blood that occur due to sickness
-Damu Fasād(دم فساد) : A blood that comes out as a result of miscarriage
*Al-Hayd (الحيض)*
فهو الدم الخارج من فرج المرأة التي يمكن حملها عادة من غير ولادة ولا مرض ولا ريادة على الأمد
It's a blood that comes out of the private part of a woman whom may happen to be pregnant,and such blood is not related to giving birth or sickness or a blood that comes after the actual menstruation has stopped
هو شيئ كتبه الله عز وجل على بنات
آدم.. It's a thing that Allāh Azzawajal has ordained upon the daughters of Ādam عليه وسلام
A woman can be in 4 stages as regard seeing blood or not
- before puberty stage
- menopause
- pregnancy
- menstruating
When she see the blood, it can be either if these 3 things.. either it's
- Hayd
- Nifaas
- or Istihādoh