“Istri itu beban hidup kalau gk kerja, soalnya gk berpenghasilan”
Kurang lebih inilah hitungan, kalau istri bukan IRT dan semua tugasnya dilakukan orang lain :
• ART : 2 - 4 jt
• Babysitter / daycare : 3 - 5 jt
• Chef / gofood : 2 - 4 jt
• Laundry & setrika : 1 - 2jt
• Driver ( sekolah, les & kegiatan lain ) : 3 - 4jt
• Guru private : 500-1jt / subject • Personal assistant : 3-4jt
• Pendamping emosional anak : ♾️
• Pelayanan s*x : 1jt - ♾️
• Hamil, melahirkan, menyusui
Total income perbulan IRT : 0 Based on occupations : 25juta +++
Kalau dikasih fakta gini, IRT dianggap perhitungan. Tapi ironisnya, masih banyak yg bilang IRT itu pengangguran atau si “cuma bisa ngabisin uang”. Pada dasarnya pernikahan itu tidak bersifat transactional. Padahal pengorbanan itu bukan hanya soal "how much money you can bring to the table" Dalam pernikahan kedua pihak harus rela berkorban, bukan merasa jadi yg paling korban
Bahkan pekerjaan IRT yang tertulis di KK dan KTP itu di akui oleh negara pada Pasal 31 ayat (3) UU Perkawinan.
Jadi IRT itu pekerjaan yang mulia ya, bukan pengangguran. Apalagi beban suami.
“A husband can buy a house but it takes a wife to make it home” 🩷
cc : devividyapith
Pesugihan halal: “Barang siapa membelikan istrinya emas di bulan Muharrom (Suro) maka rizkinya akan mengalir deras selama satu tahun”
Salah satu tradisi Jawa yang sangat aku sukaaaa 😍
cc:threadauniazulfa
Ngomongin jambret kemarin, menurut pov saya, yg ngga kalah kejam diantara semuanya ini adalah keluarga si jambret 🥲
Dengan narasi: "tulang punggung keluarga"
Saya bayangin jambretnya ini sandwich generation yg merantau dan duitnya dikirim ke mereka sebagai tulang punggung keluarga -
Dibela2in sampe njambret, udah meninggal pun masih dipakai jadi alat buat memeras si korban jambretnya. sampe bawa pengacara. sampe ngelibatin pihak² lain. 🥀
Ya, memang ngga dibenarkan, tp toh mereka juga udah meninggal.
Out of topic ya.
Ini bagi saya relate, setelah ketemu sama ratusan temen² perantau di Jogja. 6 dari 10 orang yg pernah saya ajak ngobrol/konseling, depresi yg mereka rasakan, tekanan terbesar yg mereka terima adalah tuntutan keluarga.
Ada 2 temen yg cerita ke saya , yg 1 mendadak naik pitam & marah² gajelas, yg 1 gemetar dan cemas luar biasa, 2 2 nya ketika ada telpon masuk. Baru denger dering telpon, belum ngecek siapa yg nelpon.
Bukan karena ditagih pinjol, tapi karena mereka ngerasa trauma. Bertahun² kalau ditelpon sama orang rumah - karena mostly hanya minta dikirim uang, bukan nanyain kabar, tp nanyain "udah transfer belum ?"
The song, the lyrics, the vocals, the harmonies, the visuals, what a combo, literally perfection. No wonder it ain’t easy to unstan them like how can I?
inilah kenapa di agama ada larangan menghardik orang yg sedang kesempitan rezeki ygy. di islam kita diminta untuk ngomong halus, jaga harga diri mereka, bantu semampunya. ini malah mempermalukan… shame
islam meninggikan mereka yang diuji, tapi orang yang tidak diuji malah merendahkan diri dengan akhlaknya sendiri.
semoga Allah berkahi usaha orang-orang yang sedang berjuang memenuhi nafkah
Baekhyun please listen to us.
ENOUGH.
Please enough. Enough of fighting for something that is just nonsense
2026 is your year, Baekhyun
Please, i beg you to create a solo fandom name, a solo lightstick, and make everything just about YOURSELF.
In my opinion, all your struggles are enough this year. Don't worry about other people's feelings anymore. Please take care and PRIORITIZE yourself from now on more than anyone.
I know that your disappearance right now is because you are preparing many plans for the future. I hope all your plans are about yourself. Only yourself.
Remember that you have me, and we are your personal fans who will follow you no matter what
Have a good friday my love.
hope you eat well and everything you do goes well too. Love you. Miss you ❤️ @B_hundred_Hyun
Korean media highlights Baekhyun as one of the biggest kpop stars in the Chinese market, with expectations that he’ll become a leading Hallyu figure once the THAAD restrictions are lifted.
He recently reached Diamond Level 1 on Weibo’s “Super Topic”—the highest tier and a major indicator of fandom power—making him the first and only Korean celebrity to do so.
His 5th mini album Essence of Reverie also sold over 1 million copies in just 3 days, becoming his 4th consecutive million seller and earning him a spot on the Billboard 200 as a soloist.
(https://t.co/eNpPew1qIS)
“next year, i’m going to bite the bullet!”
i don’t think baekhyun realizes he’s been living fearlessly all his life. the choice to debut, the choice to live and leave a second home that housed his capability as an idol, the choice to establish his own company and the choice to fight for his rights are all proof life dealt him a difficult, and in times bad, hand but that he persevered and rose above it all.
what risks will he take, what incredible feats will he perform, what higher cliffs will he jump off, what deeper seas will he dive into, we could only wonder but the one consistent thing i’m sure of is i will be there rallying behind him with all my support and love like i have always done!