@HeatherLLove While noble, it's important to stress how challenging this was (or maybe it wasn't) for you two. It's dangerous to present this in too pithy of a manner. My experience in hearing this from couples is they almost always went a little farther than that wanted. Tell that too.
@DontWorryBoutB I don't know your situation, but I'd bet money you're not married. There is a such thing as a wrong person but no such thing as "the" right person. Unmarried people think it's magic but it's more work than you realize to have a happy marriage even for the most compatible.
Can you be inconvenienced and still maintain the right and loving response to your spouse?
You don't know the full cost and it stretches the limit. Commit to love even in the midst of what you're not aware of!
Let me tell you a lesson about LOVING YOUR SPOUSE that I find hard for people including myself.
It's not hard because you DON'T want to do it, but probably because how exhausted everyone is all the time.
When her request goes farther than what was convenient at that time or when my offer to do something for her turns into her adding more beyond what's suitable for my comfort or easy performance, I (and you) need to push down selfishness, laziness, or pride and let LOVE arise!
We (men) have an obligation to our wives to not deprive them sexually.
1 Corinthians 7:3 talks about this.
And her needs aren't met just because you're having sex
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@PhilosoG Exactly, no one is a 10 all the time. And nobody was a 10 with their partner the first few times because you didn't know everything about HER body, or HER preferences yet. If you can't agree to that then I know I'm not talking to a serious person and certainly not a real 10!
@PhilosoG Trust me I understand your point. But even if you are knocking it out of the park and your wife is singing your praises after every session, one should STILL be asking, "what else" to keep that dialog going. Not just to stroke an ego.