Hausa women will get together and talk about the horrors of being married and then turn to you and ask “so when are you thinking about getting married?
Don’t. Recruit. Me.
That’s how Layla was anti-polygamy until she got married. Most of this redundant anti-marriage talk is just people coping with not being able to find a partner.
The cashier at my store kept giving me free coffee for 6 months.
I never asked.
I just assumed she liked me.
One day I saw her doing it for the guy behind me too.
Then the homeless guy outside.
Then a kid who forgot his lunch money.
Married people must learn to avoid socializing with the opposite gender unless absolutely necessary, it always leads to regret, disrespects one's spouse and opens the door to fitna.
Honouring your spouse means respecting boundaries and maintaining trust in your relationship.