Frustration tolerance part 2: Billie Jean
Most people quit during the "slow and boring" part. Right before the breakthrough...
-> But, look at Billie Jean (Michael Jackson's drummer):
1 Beat, 20 Songs.
video: https://t.co/1ANXAgp0t3
My drum teacher always talks about "frustration tolerance"
I practice an exercise and immediately want to speed it up... But, ofc, I mess up.
His rule:
Stay at a slow, clean tempo. Master it. Then speed up
In drumming, like in life, speed without control is just noise
I found we don’t outgrow friendship
We outgrow forced conversations
What brings people together now?
- Shared passions
- Low-friction context
- Space to be themselves
Jam sessions, anime tours, moto groups…
These aren’t hobbies. They’re belonging without needing to explain
Why “solo travel” isn’t really solo
Solo travel is growing fast
But 70% of travelers still choose guided group tours.
It’s not a contradiction, it’s a signal:
People want freedom and community.
To explore alone, but connect with those who “get it”
(source: getyourguide)
🎯 Realization from building travel & music products:
You’re not just helping people do the thing
You’re helping them do it with the right people
🛠️ Community > UX polish
❤️ Shared vibes > roadmap features
📈 Retention = people feeling seen
Don’t just promote features, promote
What if you built a product that only existed while you were traveling?
Not always on. Not pushing.
Just… present, when the mindset is open.
Not a notification. Not an SDR. BUT a companion. A nudge. A well-timed whisper.
Does that kind of digital presence even make sense?
Mid-trip, people aren’t thinking like they normally do.
They’re hyped. Curious. Open.
Their mental browser tabs are closed.
That’s why they say things like:
“I don’t want this feeling to end”
“Where should we go next?”
It’s not a CTA moment.
It’s a trust moment.
Travel Insight: People book while they’re feeling, not planning.
Found out they’re 3x more likely to buy their next experience while still on the current one
Don’t wait until they get home.
🎯 Build for that dopamine moment, because feeling good beats a 10% discount. Every time
I wonder if MBA programs now require MVPs with traction… or if students still graduate pitching business plans.
Someone mentioned theirs and I got curious.
I finished mine in 2023. We built a prototype, but we had no Lovable, Cursor, Bolt, nothing.
Different game now.
Plot twist: Users wanted MORE human involvement, not less.
- The manual coordination was the feature, not the bug.
- Now, how to replicate it without losing the "human" touch?... enhance community somehow?
- Peopel wanna connection
Didn’t expect this:
Gemini was faster at understanding UX/UI and mapping fields from a screenshot
Claude reviews like a boss 🤖
🧩Nugget 1: Mobbin has tons of UI flows. Super helpful for user flows & early prototypes
🧠Nugget 2: I also used Mobbin to draft a new system design
Tried to fix a problem with more tech. Didn’t work.
The poll said it all. So I went full analog.
- In-person meetups
- No app
- Just people talking about music
And it worked.
Sometimes, the “MVP” is just humans in a room.
#Startups#UX#JamSessions#musictech
Most amateur musicians freeze in jam sessions
Not because they lack talent, but because there’s no structure
We added curated setlists by genre and level, and suddenly:
🎶 More confidence
🎶 More flow
🎶 More music
Structure can unlock creativity...?
#ProductDesign#UX#MusicTech
How to manage user anxiety before booking a jam?
WhatsApp groups worked: lurk, chat, intimate enough
Facebook groups/Meetups: wild jungle, but you trust it somehow
Challenge: Bring that same "good feelings" to the app without losing the magic.
No 10k MRR yet. Instead? Silence. The kind of rejection no one talks about
We moved users to a new & clean webapp
But no one booked. No feedback. Just… quiet
A quick poll on WA revealed:
-Most New joiners had no jam exp.
-Scared to be first, to play with strangers, to mess up...
Product lesson: At this phase, Users chose chaotic WhatsApp over my "smart" app
- Community beats algorithms
- Sometimes the best product decision is to listen, adapt, and iterate... Also, pick who to listen to as well
Phase 3: Designing the solution v01
Phase 4: Beta testing with musicians
- Expected: "When can I use it?"
- Got: "Can we keep WhatsApp?"
- Realization: I needed to enhance UX for community to make them jump
How do you design for community and not become a social media app?