The whole "friendless losers are such for a reason" is people doing revisionism of their own school life lol, usually some of the worst people had the biggest friend groups because all these "friends" do is enable each other
I genuinely cannot recommend to young queer people enough: get the hell out of intracommunity discourse. Literally read anything else all day. Read history, any history, not just queer history, anything really. This endless identity powerscaling is a poison.