What is essential in family constellations? It reunites what has been split apart…Something incomplete becomes complete and peace comes to the family.
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Both [man and woman] have to acknowledge that the other, even though different, is an equal and of equal value. This is a humble stance, but a basis for a good relationship.
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The soul is a power that binds what has been separated and guides it in a certain direction….What happens to people who have killed someone? They lose their soul….And where is the soul? With the victim. It can be retrieved from there…
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…peace…expands…personal boundaries and within these new boundaries, permits diversity as well as personal uniqueness and allows for collective action.
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What brings about peace? Those who previously had a sense of being superior to others, deeming them to be less, or to be an enemy, now recognise those others as their equals. Each side acknowledges the special qualities of the other…each gives…and receives from one another.
Innocence neither challenges, nor supports, and prefers suffering to acting; it prefers to remain a child rather than grow up.
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In family constellations, the work of reconciliation begins in the individual soul and in the family. When reconciliation is achieved there, it can spread to other groups and contexts.
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One who has moved beyond…power, meets the last enemy - desire for peace. He or she wishes to be left in peace and no longer follows the movements of the soul… But anyone who has got that far has gained a bit of essential knowing, and this bit of knowing makes it all worthwhile
To move past clarity, one has to face the new and unknown without understanding. One who moves beyond an earlier clarity in this way achieves power. Power, however, is the next enemy.
One who has conquered fear and gained clarity can never lose it again. However, clarity is the next enemy. As soon as one relies on it, any further knowing is denied. The person becomes stuck in what he or she has recognised, and moves no further.
…in the movements of the soul, the individuals cross the boundaries of their conscience and find a place in their hearts for others, who have a different conscience. In doing so, each becomes truly human.
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…conscience does not tell us what is good and what us evil in a general sense. It only defines that within a particular framework.
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How can we be merciful? By facing our own need, our own guilt, our own inescapable situation, and how dependent we also are upon the mercy and leniency of others…. In this helplessness, there is neither judgment nor forgiveness. We remain humble and small. This mercy is quiet.
…when we find a resolution with full respect for the dead there is also an effect on the dead. They can more easily find their peace. Therefore, this work serves the dead as well as the living.
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