Henry Anyanwu

[Henry Anyanwu @Henrytamara62]

@OPay_NG @OPay_NG You people are yet to reverse my money after two weeks of waiting.

[Henry Anyanwu @Henrytamara62]

@OPay_NG You better reverse my money.
I'm tired of your useless messages on my DM.

[Henry Anyanwu @Henrytamara62]

@OPay_NG @OPay_NG

Please reverse my money back to me it's been 2 weeks since I've logged a complaint yet no resolution.

[Henry Anyanwu @Henrytamara62]

@OPay_NG @OPay_NG it's obvious that you people don't want to reverse my money back.
For 2 weeks I have been chatting and calling you people to reverse my money yet no tangible response from you people.

You people are gradually turning into a criminal enterprise.

[Henry Anyanwu @Henrytamara62]

@OPay_NG @OPay_NG Please reverse back my money.
It has taken longer than I expected.
It's More than 2 weeks.

[Henry Anyanwu @Henrytamara62]

@n6oflife6 I was expecting that too.😁

[Henry Anyanwu @Henrytamara62]

@honest30bgfan_ E don sub.

[Henry Anyanwu @Henrytamara62]

@FinestDoveTruth Stay masculine bro

[Sir Dickson @Wizarab10]

If there is anyone I've met who doesn't need a boss, it is @neo_officialll. He also doesn't size people up. He is open to doing business with everybody. Even if you don't have enough money, he will help you sought for the best available deal that works for both parties.

Neo is very friendly and relatable. But, you'll not disrespect him or his business. It is "fuck you and your money."

Don't reward a system that disrespect you. Thank you @eric_gugua 🙏🏾

[Henry Anyanwu @Henrytamara62]

👂🏽👂🏽

[Henry Anyanwu @Henrytamara62]

@FinestDoveTruth That's true.

[Henry Anyanwu @Henrytamara62]

@ShopRichies @drealkachii I swear na the comedy

[Alex Onyia @winexviv]

I have been thinking about something lately, and the more I think about it, the more disturbing it becomes.

A lot of Nigerians became poor without doing anything wrong.

They didn’t stop working. They didn’t become lazy. They didn’t suddenly become irresponsible.

They simply woke up one day and realised that the money they had worked for could no longer buy the things it used to buy.

Think about someone earning ₦100,000 a month.

The person still wakes up early every morning, goes to work, puts in the same hours, probably works even harder, gets promoted occasionally and does everything society says a responsible person should do.

Yet every year, that person seems to be able to afford less.

At some point, ₦50,000 could buy a reasonable amount of food for the house. Today, you can enter the market with the same ₦50,000 and genuinely wonder where the money went.

Nothing happened to you.

The economy happened to you.

And I think this is something we don’t talk about enough.

Imagine working hard for years, only for circumstances completely outside your control to quietly reduce the value of everything you have worked for.

You didn’t lose your job.

You didn’t lose your salary.

But somehow, you lost your standard of living.

That is poverty too.

And this is why I struggle with the way we sometimes discuss palliatives.

Of course, when people are hungry, you must find ways to help them immediately. There is nothing wrong with providing temporary relief.

But surely, the bigger question should be:

Why did millions of working Nigerians suddenly need palliatives in the first place?

If a man could comfortably buy a bag of rice from his salary a few years ago and today he needs government assistance to buy that same bag of rice, giving him rice may solve today’s hunger.

But it has not solved the actual problem.

The real problem is that his labour has lost value.

And perhaps that is what we should be obsessed with fixing.

How do we make the Nigerian worker’s income valuable again?

How do we make ₦100,000 buy more next year, rather than less?

How do we make food cheaper by producing more?

How do we reduce the cost of energy and transportation?

How do we build an economy where salaries can actually keep up with the cost of living?

Because when I think deeply about it, perhaps one of the greatest things a government can do for its people is not to keep giving them money.

It is to build an economy where the money they earn has value.

There is dignity in being able to take care of yourself from the product of your own labour.

There is dignity in a teacher being able to feed a family from teaching.

There is dignity in a nurse being able to pay rent from nursing.

There is dignity in a young person working an honest job and gradually seeing life improve.

People should be able to look back after five years of hard work and say, “My life has become better.”

Not, “I earn more money today, but somehow I can afford less.”

That is the part that keeps bothering me.

Millions of Nigerians are not asking to become millionaires overnight.

They just want hard work to make sense again.

And maybe that should be one of the simplest ways we measure whether our economy is actually working:

Is the ordinary Nigerian who works hard becoming progressively better off, or progressively poorer?

Everything else is secondary.

[Henry Anyanwu @Henrytamara62]

@FinestDoveTruth Father Abraham 🤣

[Henry Anyanwu @Henrytamara62]

@OPay_NG @OPay_NG Good morning please, how much longer should I wait before you return my money?

[Henry Anyanwu @Henrytamara62]

@OPay_NG Good morning please, how much longer should I wait before you return my money?

[FinestDoveTruth @FinestDoveTruth]

Phase 9: The weak man relinquishes his position.

Some men collapse here.

Not because they suddenly agree.

Because they are tired.

Tired of arguments.

Tired of threats.

Tired of relatives calling.

Tired of sleeping angry.

Tired of hearing the word divorce.

So he starts surrendering things simply to purchase peace.

“Okay.”

“Do whatever you want.”

“I don’t care anymore.”

He calls it peace.

It is not peace.

He has simply stopped fighting for any meaningful authority inside his own marriage.

And once surrender becomes his method of avoiding conflict, everybody learns that enough pressure will move him.

Phase 10: The confrontation.

Eventually there comes a moment when pretending becomes impossible.

Either the man accepts a marriage where his leadership exists only when nobody challenges it, or he stands firmly on the structure of marriage he believes in.

No endless shouting.

No begging.

No competing with her friends.

No campaigning to her family.

No threats.

Just boundaries.

This is what I accept.

This is what I will not accept.

This is the kind of marriage I agreed to build.

And these are the decisions I will make if that marriage is no longer what we are building.

Because dominance is not screaming louder than your wife.

It is being impossible to govern through tantrums, pressure, threats or outside interference.

A weak man eventually trades his principles for temporary peace.

A strong man understands that peace purchased by permanent surrender is not peace.

It is defeat.

Learn or perish..

~FinestDove

[Henry Anyanwu @Henrytamara62]

This is so true.

[FinestDoveTruth @FinestDoveTruth]

Many men fall in love with women with good accent and beautiful faces, but failed to take their time to understand women for whom they are.

Do you actually think a woman whom you marry without scrutinising her value system will marry you and never shit-test you?

If you do, then you don’t know enough about women.

Even the best among women is still a woman.

See, marriage does not automatically kill ego, pride, comparison or the temptation to find out exactly how much a man will tolerate.

Let me tell you the phases you may experience when you marry a woman who finds it difficult to submit.

Phase 1: She looks up to you.

In the beginning, there is admiration.

She asks what you think. She respects your decisions. She sees you as the man she chose and is comfortable following your direction.

Everything is peaceful because your position has not yet been seriously challenged.

Phase 2: She starts comparing herself to you.

Familiarity removes some of the mystery.

Now she knows your weaknesses.

She knows what you earn. She knows where you struggle. She knows the mistakes you make.

Then comparison begins.

“If I can do this, why should he decide?”

“If I earn this much, what exactly makes him the head?”

That is where admiration can slowly turn into calculation.

Phase 3: Comparison becomes competition.

She no longer wants merely to contribute.

She wants to establish that her judgement carries the same authority as yours.

Every decision becomes a negotiation.

Every disagreement becomes an opportunity to establish territory.

You think you are discussing an issue.

Sometimes you are actually negotiating who leads the home.

Phase 4: She decides where she believes you stand.

Eventually, she makes an assessment.

Either she believes she married a man she respects enough to follow, or she convinces herself that she settled for less.

Once a woman starts believing she settled beneath herself, expect the dynamics of the relationship to change.

Phase 5: She starts acting first and informing you later.

This is where you hear:

“I’ve already decided.”

“I was going to tell you.”

“I didn’t think I needed to ask you.”

She makes the decision and then “carries you along.”

Understand the difference.

You are no longer leading the decision.

You are receiving minutes from a meeting that already happened.

Phase 6: Your resistance becomes the problem.

When you finally object, the conversation changes.

The issue is no longer what she did.

The issue becomes your reaction to what she did.

Now you are “controlling.”

You are “insecure.”

You are “too traditional.”

The argument gets moved away from her defiance and placed on your refusal to tolerate it.

Phase 7: She tests whether your boundaries have consequences.

This phase is crucial.

She crosses a line and watches.

You complain.

Nothing happens.

She crosses another.

You shout.

Nothing changes.

Eventually she discovers something dangerous:

Your anger has no consequence.

Your boundaries are merely speeches.

Once someone discovers that your “NO” eventually becomes “fine, do whatever you want,” they have learnt exactly how much pressure is required to defeat you.

Phase 8: She brings reinforcement.

When she cannot defeat your position inside the marriage, she may take the argument outside it.

Now her mother knows.

Her sisters know.

Her friends know.

Sometimes pastors, imams, counsellors or whichever third party she believes will strengthen her position are invited into a disagreement that originally belonged between husband and wife.

And notice what can happen:

The question quietly changes from “Who is right?” to “How many people agree with me?”

Now you are not arguing with one person.

You are arguing against a committee.

[Henry Anyanwu @Henrytamara62]

@FinestDoveTruth Don't let them trick you oo