Joseph

Helping Couples Create Healthy Marriages

[Joseph @HlthyMarriage]

The most important things in marriage are not things at all. It's the stuff under the hood.

[Joseph @HlthyMarriage]

The role of faith is not just to enforce faithfulness and commitment in marriage. Faith enhances satisfaction in the relationship.

[Joseph @HlthyMarriage]

People desire to be energized and motivated intellectually. Good communication is not enough. People desire to be challenged on an emotional level.

[Joseph @HlthyMarriage]

If you marry with the objective of changing your spouse, you are doomed to fail. You need to marry because you like them the way they are.

[Joseph @HlthyMarriage]

External things do not matter as much as what's inside the relationship. It might look good on the outside, but if there is turmoil inside, it's bad.

[Joseph @HlthyMarriage]

Your marriage is too important and valuable to allow past baggage to damage or destroy it. We fail to take the trash out, so our relation begins to stink.

[Joseph @HlthyMarriage]

Remember, the best remedy for the past is hope for the future!

[Joseph @HlthyMarriage]

There is a difference in acceptance and approval. We all need acceptance. That sense that we still belong even though we struggle.

[Joseph @HlthyMarriage]

Accountability only works for those who WANT to be accountable. If you are serious about cleaning out the baggage in your life, it helps to have an accountability partner.

[Joseph @HlthyMarriage]

Most of our issues as couples are not caused by big, hairy problems that come at us from all directions. Nope. It's usually an inside job. The baggage we fail to unpack and get rid of.

[Joseph @HlthyMarriage]

Believing the best about your spouse shows them you trust, value and appreciate them. You refuse to allow negative things to replace what you believe about them.

[Joseph @HlthyMarriage]

We desire to not just belong; we want to be accepted for who we are. This implies that others see value in us.

[Joseph @HlthyMarriage]

Marriage checklists might work, but often they are distractions from the real work. They give us the false sense of doing something to make things better.

[Joseph @HlthyMarriage]

In order to have a great marriage, you need to fall in love with things that make a marriage great, and not just the idea of being married.

[Joseph @HlthyMarriage]

You have to fall in love with the labor. A lot of people open restaurants because they love food. But that's not how it works. You really have to learn to love the labor.

[Joseph @HlthyMarriage]

Many people in relationships focus on what their partner should be doing for them, when they should really be focused on what they can do for their partner.

[Joseph @HlthyMarriage]

Shift your energy from the problem to the payoff. What will fixing this one thing actually give you? When you treat your marriage's health with the same urgency as a broken heater, you're investing in a future of more peace.

[Joseph @HlthyMarriage]

We do everything we know to do EXCEPT find the fire and put it out. Unfortunately, many couples approach their marriage issues with the same strategy – stop the noise. But they fail to eliminate the problem.

[Joseph @HlthyMarriage]

Every relationship has a core stressor—a 'Big One.' It's the primary issue that, if you resolved it, would create a cascade of positive change.

[Joseph @HlthyMarriage]

A strong marriage isn't an accident; it's a project built by deliberate, consistent action. The biggest mistake isn't fighting—it's feeling so overwhelmed by all the issues that you do nothing at all.